Very depressive wife: should I tell her best friend?

Hi Froggie-

I think this is tricky. If she isn't willing to listen to you and trust you, do you think she will trust her best friend? Surely her best friend sees some symptoms of depression in your wife. Asking her best friend for help could backfire on you.

Your wife does need treatment though and honestly I think you should do whatever it takes to get her help. I let myself slip waaayyyyy to far in a depressive state before someone said something to me. I trusted this person and contact my doctor and a counselor immediately. Today I am much better thanks to both.

Good luck either way....
Michele

Froggie,

You do not want to tell the friend. It is hard enough to deal with the feelings your wife is going through and hang onto the trust for you. If you tell, she looses her trust for you which could be devastating for her.

From my personal experience that best thing to do is to keep as close to your wife a possible, talk with her as much as possible, if she starts have dark thoughts try to get her to a crisis center or a behavior unit through the doctor. IT is best if you can skip the crisis unit, they are troubling sometimes.

You wife does need up, stand by her, don't smother, just be there when she falls to catch her then you can get her the help she needs. Then the friend can come into the picture.

I know all this is easier said than done, but try, if you push her it could be dangerous.

Stay strong, keep posting we are here to listen and support, know that we care.

Trina