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Posted 11/5/2012 3:37 PM (GMT 0)
Hello
My boyfriend and i have had many conversations about my mental illness. He has never experinance depressions so he doesn't have an understanding where Im coming from. Sometimes he say things that become hurtful such as "When you tell me about your pass I feel like your searching for a pity party" or "Those things happen to you in the pass why let it bother you now if you're not around those people anymore", comments like there's makes me frustrated. Its like talking to a wall Im trying to help him have a better understanding but its hard. Idk how to explain it to someone who hasn't dealt with depression. Im just trying to find new ways to help him understand wile im working on myself as-well so we can get to a better place in are relationship.
Posted 11/5/2012 4:59 PM (GMT 0)
Hello Katalina,

Welcome to the forum. your boyfriend sounds scared and uninformed.
although it sounds like you do the best you can to educate him.

If your past is "child abuse" the I suggest getting "Allies in Healing" by Laura Davis from the library or other source for him. It is written in question form, easially navigated and a great help to those whose love us, but are too afraid to look into what is troubling us and want it all to go away.

Child abuse includes, alcoholic parents, emotional abuse and neglect.

Thanks for posting; we are here to support and listen. I hope you continue.

Stay strong

Trina
Posted 11/5/2012 5:44 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Katalina,

Welcome to the depression forum. Know that we here do understand. Maybe you should get him a book on depression so that he can understand. I am sure there are some out there.

Please take Trina's input to heart.

Hugs, Karen
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