"hard" day today

Hi Guideme,

Welcome to the depression forum. I am glad you decided to join us... Therapy is an excellant place to start. Your therapist will guide you on the different things you can do to feel better. Remember that the process is going to take time and work from you. It should go well though, especially if you get a good therapist. Just be honest with them and open. Try not to be nervous. It will go fine. Make sure to let us know how it went.

In the meantime, maybe you could get out for a walk. It really helps both mentally and physically. Even if you don't go for very long.

Best wished to you. Keep an open mind and try to go with the flow of things. Much easier than not...lol...

Hugs, Karen

Guideme,

I can so relate to you. I am having that day today...just cant get it together....I cry I stop I cry I stop...seems there is nobody that really wants to hear me in my life. I felt this way for a long time...but getting help is a very long process...and being a Mom and Nana...people treat me like I should have it all together.....and it makes me feel sooo bad because I dont. It just gets worse and worse. I used to cover it up and always have a clean house and dressed and propper...but it does not even seem possible anymore. And the people in my life just seem to not notice. I have looked for hours to find a connection. So I guess I hope that you know you're not alone.......... I hope your counceling goes well!!!

Hi NanaMess,

Welcome to the forum. You aren't alone anymore. So many people here can relate... Know we are all here for you. Take life one day at a time. Do what you can. Your family loves you. You must make them feel secure in their eyes. You stand for a pillar of hope and love. Take life as it comes. Keep doing what you are doing. If it becomes too overwhelming, talk to a professional. A counselor or a psychiatrist. They can help you. In the meantime, keep posting and know everybody here cares and understands you and Guideme...

Hugs, Karen

Trina and Karen,

Thank you. I have tried some meds and some counciling......but I just have a fear of meds...I don't know why I can't handle this done by myself....is it strange to believe I should be able to manage these things if I was strong enough....? I feel like a failure,,,I can help all of my 6 kids and raising my grands kids well 3 of them....but I can not help ME!! Just makes me feel useless...and the fact that my family does not seem to be aware of the most glaring signs...makes me feel like it doesn't matter anyways. I need an anchor..somewhere to start and it all feels extremely overwhelming aND OUT OF REACH. Any suggestions or experiences.....and thank you again...it made a difference to me to know someone is there...

Traci

Good morning Traci,

I found that taking life just one day at a time has helped me. Be in the moment at all times. Mindfulness it is called. It really helps. I was always worrying about the future and past. This takes that away and leaves you free to do tasks that need to be done now. It comes with practice. Just keep trying to stay in the moment. It does give you more energy to work with in the present.

Have a fantastic day,

Hugs, Karen

bayoub2 said...
Hi and welcome Nana

I know that overwhelming feeling. Everyday! The only way I can survive is to do things in tiny little bites-10 minutes here 10 minutes there and then I break. I keep pushing myself. And my family too, do not seem to see what a struggle the smallest thing is to do. I feel guilty all the time but I know I shouldn't and neither should you.

With a chronic illness, you need to learn to set your boundaries and learn how to say "NO"

We truly understand what you are dealing with and are here to lend a hand

Keep posting
Mags

Hello Mags, would you be able to offer some advice on how to deal with the guilt? I was diagnosed with PTSD mid 2012 after leaving an abusive relationship and past childhood sexual abuse. I am having flashbacks, crying spells and the guilt is so overwhelming at times I wish I didn't exist :(. Thanks, Karla

Karla,

so sorry to know of your past abuse.

I understand what your are going through. I was abused by 4 members of my family for 15 years.

When these feeling overwhelm you, you need to use distraction skills. HOLDING ICE CUBES IS THE FASTEST WAY TO COME OUT OF THIS BAD SPACE. Journaling; to get the emotions out, walking to release and change setting; painting or drawing if you want, don't have to be Van Gough, just do it.

On another post I talked to you about therapy. this is a very good idea for you. I has helped me a lot to deal with the flooding of emotions and flash backs that come. I have been in therapy for 2 years and it has saved me many Crisis-inpat. stays.

Mindful.org is a site on mindfulness. This skill helps you put space between you and the emotion or FB you are feeling at the moment. So you do not react in harmful ways to your feelings.
I suggest you review the site and read some articles that are there, most of the books can be found in you local library.

Remember, feelings are just that, feelings. They can not hurt you even though it feels like they can. Flash Backs are memories they can not hurt you either.

Stay strong and keep posting we are here for you.

Trina