Posted 12/27/2012 9:50 AM (GMT 0)
Hello all.
I am not sure if I am in the right place or not but I'll give you the full story and let you decide. I am more and more convinced she is suffering from withdraw and is taking it out on me basically.
My girlfriend and I were living together in a beautiful apartment and things were good. Sure, we had problems, and it was adjustment getting used to each other's bad habits newly living together, but we were happy.
My girlfriend (25) decided she wanted to get off her lexapro because she was tired of being dependent on it and she thought it was killing her libido. It also could have been the birth control she was using. Anyhow, while we were living together she slowly weened herself off it. This was in September. She then basically was out of a job and couldn't handle the stress of her new teaching position and quit after two days. She couldn't go back to her old, much more comfortable position where she had a large support group of ladies that she could confide in.
Things got progressively worse, the stress of the move took it's toll on us and we were fighting a lot, she locked herself in the bathroom one night and started crying she was so upset. She had to move in with her parents. She certainly felt like her world was falling apart.
Now we are broken up and she is going back and forth on "spending the rest of her life with me" and "just wanting to be alone" or left alone. She would say that a lot, I wanna be left alone. She would miss out on friend's parties and just sit at home by her self and paint. She had days where she would be sweet and a wonderful girlfriend and then the next she was the wicked witch of the west. So she broke off with me stating, "It wasn't fair for me to be a good girlfriend to you only sometimes" and "I want to be deserving of your love" and that she needs to work on her life. She did this twice, breaking up with me - in a short time frame. Came back 4 days later telling me she misses me. I dont know where I stand, ive seen her snap at her parents. She wont let me help her. First she tells me she wants me to stand by her side then she changed her mind on that stating the above.
Sound like a theme here? She goes back and forth on everything. She was so sweet to me yesterday,today she isnt talking to me. What do i do? How do i support her? She is the love of my life and i refuse to let a mental issue defeat us. She insists this isnt about another guy (because i asked)