Is my girlfriend depressed or just emotional?

Hey everyone. I post on the Ulcerative Colitis forum here, but I have a question I could really use some help with if any of you have some understanding...

My girlfriend that I've been seeing for about 2.5 months is really sad, and has been for the last couple days. She tells me that she just gets like this sometimes. This isn't related directly to her cycle, because that was about 10 days ago... though she was emotional then as well.

I don't understand the situation fully with her. She tells me she loves me, but she did not seem to want to talk or kiss at all. It was like she just wanted to be held, so that's what I did.

She says she feels like this from time to time, and feels bad because I'm always so happy.

I feel like I need to understand this better, since she's a woman that I've pictured a future with already. I feel rejected in the sense that it seems like if I say anything even the slightest bit questioning she takes it personally and it makes her sad.

She's a very, very, intelligent woman with math/sciences type things... and is more socially withdrawn than the normal woman. She doesn't have many friends, and the ones she does have do not seem to make a good effort to stay in touch with her. She tells me this bothers her sometimes, and makes her feel like nobody cares about her.

I feel terrible about this, but as much as I love her I don't necessarily know that any of this is my responsibility to fix. I don't know what to do. Much of the time this sadness has not been an issue, unless she just hid it from me until we got to know each other really well.

I guess I'm just trying to figure out what is normal, and what is not normal, in regards to women feeling sad. The mars/venus book says that women are like waves, and that they crash and don't have any love to give... and that if a man is there for a woman then she will rebound and begin to feel better and better. This is a cycle I guess. I'm just trying to figure out if this is more of a depression that needs help, or just a normal, emotional woman.

Thank you in advance for any kind words.

It is early in your relationship to be able to draw any conclucions.

You might have a heart to heart with her to see if she has ever been diagnosis with anything and what history there might be. Honesty is usually the best policy. If she wants to share she will.

I read the Mars/Venus book. Can't say I agreed with much of it. Lot better sources for relationships out there. Keep looking.

If she has never been diagnosed, then follow the advice given above and try to get her to a doctor.

Stay strong
Peace
Trina

If she gets to where she wants to be alone, don't be surprised, and don't take it personal. But do talk to her about seeing a doctor or a counselsor. It sounds like if it is depression, it would be early in the game and easier to reverse the symptoms. Hopefully just counseling will help. The best thing you can do is be there for her. Too much questioning might make her back off. So just let her know you are there for her and want to see her happy.

Hugs, Karen