daughter having breakup with boyfriend

anyone that can help...my 16 year old daughter has broke up with her boyfriend of around 11 months.  she is a mess.  she wants him back.  she cries all the time.  i tried to read her things from the computer and she said she can not do any of them.  she keeps trying to contact him.  she is very cute and athletic and has so much going for herself, but she is a mess.  he was at our house all the time.  how can i get her to not want him anymore.  i told her to write down bad things about him and look at them and she won't.  she is a mess. he has moved on.  it happened a week ago and she is not doing any better.  she does not want to hang with friends.  how can i help her?

Break ups suck for anyone of any age. She's going to be upset, and considering the relationship was so long (I consider 11 months to be long for a 16 y/o) it's going to take her awhile to get over him. This is going to be a major event in her life so she needs to take the time to cope with it and heal in her own ways, as long as it isn't harming herself.

Encourage her to do things with her friends. If you know her friends' parents, tell them to tell their children to make an effort to make plans with your daughter, even if it's as simple as a sleep over. I wouldn't go so far as to label this as depression and send her to a counselor over having an emotional break up.

Let her know that you're there for her and you know what it's like to have your heart broken at a young age and what it's like to love someone so much that it hurts so much when you no longer have them in your life. At the same time, remind her that she is young and there will be many more boys in her life.

- Rainy/DD