Need some guidance FAST

Hello everyone, this is my first post here so I look forward to all the people that respond to me, and I'm grateful for any feedback. Ok, to start me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost two years and we've had our ups and downs just like any couple, but in the end we are both crazy in love with each other. I would do absolutely anything to make this girl happy, and she would do the same.
Everything was going fine until about two weeks ago when she seemed down and I asked her what was the matter, to which she responded nothing is wrong I just don't feel happy. So naturally I thought it was my fault and felt guilty as hell for no apparent reason. Later that night I am at work and she texts me and says that maybe we should break up( I hate when people text serious things) so I called her and requested to leave work early so I could walk to her house which was over five miles away. When i got there she did not seem like herself, she seemed spiteful and vicious and vulgar and kept telling me things like "you'll never change, you never loved me" ect. So I kept telling her i do love her and that I will change, but she neglected me and walked back into her house while I sat there sobbing alone in the darkness. The next day she calls me and asks if we can talk and she sounds torn, so I figure she just wanted to end it on a better note, but it turns out she was begging for me back stating that it was her that was talking last night and that she didnt mean any of it. Anyways we talked for nearly 5 hours and we ended up sleeping with each other that night which made us both happy. Everything was pretty good for a couple days and then I could tell she got into this funk and wouldn't tell me what was the matter with her. After I stopped trying to force it out of her she told me that her anxiety(she has severe anxiety) was making her feel more and more depressed lately, and she is now in a hole and cannot seem to get happy. So naturally I was alarmed and felt that i HAD to do something to help, but everytime she kept telling me I cant make her happy, nothing can. Thats when i decided i had to do a little research and I saw that one of the best things you can do is to just leave her alone. So I have been leaving her alone, only seeing her on tuesdays and thursdays (we have class together) for about an hour, and texting her periodically throughout the day. As about a week went by i noticed nothing has changed and she keeps telling me she feels so guilty and that she just wants me to leave her because she doesnt make me happy and that she doesnt want anyone, but she loves me and she is just always sad. I just called her and told her that Im ALWAYS here for her and that I will always listen to her and that I am not going to break up with her over this because I know this depression isnt her speaking. I told her alot of things, that she needs to talk to SOMEONE and not keep all this emotion to her self, i suggested her mother because they are very close, or even me. But i feel like she will not listen to me and that she will jsut keep going deeper into the dark abyss. Basically I'm wondering if I am doing anything right/wrong or what else i should be doing to aid her along this arduous task of overcoming depression. I love her unconditionally and will not leave her because of this. I'm actually not feeling as stressed out as you might think. Im doing things on my own, working out, homework, playing with friends ect. and i feel pretty good. I just wish she could understand that i do not want anyone else and that my heart is hers. Any advice you guys have is a million times appreciated!
KR

Hi welcome to the forum.

You are doing the right thing by just being there and supporting her. I do agree with Karen-it would be better to talk to a counselor. Friends and relatives are just TOO close, too muchhistory etc.

Come back whenever and let us know how she is doing,

Mags

Hey guys

So we ended up breaking up, or taking a break I don't know but i think taking a break means broken up for good haha. But anyways I tried everything i possibly could i gave her space I was there for her to lean on, i suggested so many things that could help her, and in the end the best thing to do in my eyes and everyone elses was to just break up with her so she can actually be alone. While i know this wont be the last time i see her/ talk to her I am still very very torn up and need some sort of advice or something to help me out. Im dealing with my own crap now too, and i feel like it will never get better. Thank you guys.

 

Hi DK, I am so sorry that you going thru this. I do know one thing for sure. As long as she knows that she can be sure that you will be there,she will not make a for sure breakup. She is probably playing the other guy too. Actually, rejection is worse than if a person dies. I bet that a high percentage of the people on this forum has been in your shoes. It hurts so much. Going for counseling is a great way to go. IF she ever wants to be a couple again i would insist on going to counseling together. If she wont do it, just that is a bad sign that she cant commit. If you will be strong and tell her you cant live never knowing that she is going to break up again. Regain the powerful person in the relationship and she will be shocked. Dont leave an open door for her. That way you will know what her game is. Good luck to you. I hope so much that it all works out in your favor. i will keep watching for more news from you. Be strong......best regards..Cathy