Depressed wife she blames me

Hi guys

My wife is taking medication for depression for around 1 year she started off taking a small dose for anxiety mood swings but then got depressed. We have 2 kids 6 and 3. She can't get out of bed and is very snappy with me. I try and do all the house work as much a possible support financially I only work part time but get very good money so do probably most of the care for the kids. She has been going good but recently taken a real turn for the worse and said I should go as I am to blame for her depression.

I feel bad that she has been in a relationship She didn't want to be in web have two great kids and last weekend we were away as a relax for the night had a great time and then a week later she tells me she can't even look at me and I have caused all the depression

I took her to the docs they have referred her to phycolgist she said that she should never of gone and i have done this to make her look bad i just want it to get better but this isn't the first time she's thrown everything at me and I have been left out in the cold

I can't work out if it really is my fault and when I leave her depression will go, if so that's the best solution and I will walk away if I really have to and always be there for my kids of course or I should stick around and take the snapping and moods and see if I should help her though!!! Help!!!!

Dear Hardtimes,

It is not possible for another person to actually "cause" another persons depression, unless there is some type of abuse. emotional, physical, etc...

I am sorry that your wife is blaming you for all the problems in her life. this is typical of an addict but usually not of a person in depression. Perhaps, there is another diagnosis that will be forthcoming from the doctor that will explain her actions.

In the meantime, maybe you could find a therapist of your own to talk to so you can get through this situation. Also maybe go to one of her appointments to see what her therapist is saying. That is done a lot, they are called family meetings.

Just know that if you are doing all you can to make things right and help her, that is all you can do. Take care of yourself so you can be there for her when she gets better. Try to make sure she gets to her appointments.

Stay strong
Peace
Trina