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Posted 6/9/2013 12:38 PM (GMT 0)
Hello everyone,

Im feeling quite depressed the last week,i discussed it with my Therapist and we both know that I MUST NOT isolate myself. I feel like doing nothing..but also i feel soooo lonely that i can't help it. I spent time with my boyfriend the past days (he doesn't know im diagnosed with depression but he knows that im having a hard time),i spent some time with my fellow students but TODAY i can't help how i feel,i don't know where to turn for support.I wish i could sleep for days. My current boyfriend,who is leaving soon and we are gonna break up makes me feel better,but i don't wanna make him feel like i smother him..He told me that whenever i feel low he will be there for me..I don't know how to help myself today. I have so much things to study and im completely unmotivated. I don't even want to eat. I hope some replies will guide me..Im so desperate..
Posted 6/9/2013 12:52 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Jeoch,

You know you aren't alone when you are here. Listen to your therapist, even if you just take a walk, it is a way to see people, and say hello. If you are lonely, it will help you. I walk around the block every day with my dog. I always see somebody to talk to.

You are going to break up with your boyfriend? That alone is depressing. But knowing that he is still going to be there for you must be of some comfort. Is this a mutual break up? Is it because he is going away?

It is a beautiful day here. I hope it is there too. I am glad that you are seeing a therapist. They really help a lot. See him/her as much as you feel you need. If you feel you need to talk, call them.

I understand how you don't want to smother your boyffiend. I am the same way. I keep a lot inside. But be honest. Work on things. Stay friends.

Keep posting, it does really help. We are all here for you. Sometimes the weekends are a little slower. But come Monday, everybody is back.

Take care Jeoch, know we are all here for you... Try to be happy. It is the little things in life that matter...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 6/9/2013 12:59 PM (GMT 0)
In Australia we've got phone services called Lifeline and Beyond blues where someone is on the other end ready to take your call when you're feeling depressed or isolated. I'm not sure if there are similar services where you are. You sounds like you've just finished high school and about to go to college. There are councillors in the college that will help you with depression. There are also support group within campus who help students with depression.

This forum is very good, there are always someone around to talk to, I know it's not like a face to face thing, but you are welcome to PM me and we can talk in private if you like. I'm not a therapist, but I'm a patient who is willing to help. And I've also have police clearance to deal with minors because I help out at my son's school. I'm doing this because I want to help and besides, it keeps both of us from being isolated as well. To me, it's a win win situation. BTW, This offer is open to anyone who is feeling lonely and want someone to talk to.

I hope this will help you feel less isolated.
Posted 6/9/2013 1:00 PM (GMT 0)
It is a nice day here too.I took a walk,i had a coffee out on my own,i cooked for myself but still feeling depressed.We are breaking up because his an erasmus student here,im a full time student and he is going back to his country in 8 days.We can't have this long distance relationship.I was very depressed and when i started to feel better and going out i met him.So he was like a miracle for me.But we both knew from the beginning that we are gonna break up when he will leave,so i tried to control my emotions for him..not get so attached..and im doing good until now. Thank you for the support dear Karen..
Posted 6/9/2013 1:50 PM (GMT 0)
You are taking all the right steps. I know you are going to feel better. Though him leaving is going to have an effect on you. He is a good friend. I hope you stay in contact with him.

It is a beautiful day here. I took a walk too. I took my dog. That is the exercise we get, walking. I saw somebody I knew and a few people I didn't. But hellos took place. That helps my day. I talk better to strangers than I do people I know sometimes.

I went to a graduation party yesterday and I didn't hardly talk to anybody, though people did talk to me. I am sometimes not very good at conversation, so I say okay a lot and nod. I wish I was better at thinking of things to say. Maybe one day. Or maybe someday. Talking here is a lot easier for me.

I hope you do okay with him leaving. Can you text and talk on the phone? Keep coming here for support. You will have people to talk to in the future, you will make friends. You are a nice person.

Take care Jeoch...

Know we all understand how you feel.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 6/9/2013 5:18 PM (GMT 0)
Clarie,Im on a psychotherapy with my uni's psychologist. Im from Europe and im a medical student abroad(not in my country,but still in Europe).I can say that people do not really know what is depression,how it feels.Even my family does not completely understand how it works.So i feel like my psychologist is the only one who can understand and support me completely.It's really sad the fact that your loved ones are willing to help you but they don't have knowledge how to do it and sometimes i feel like im going through this alone.

Karen,How do you feel when you talk to people face to face?

I'd like to know how other people who also suffer from depression feel.
Posted 6/9/2013 5:40 PM (GMT 0)
I just don't know what to say to them other than "hello". I can't express myself very well. I can talk to my therapist, but she asks me a lot of questions when I don't know what to say. It goes well. I can talk to people on the street, as to say how are you today. But sometimes I can be with many people and not talk to any of them. Maybe it is my moods. I just don't know what to talk about. Weather...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 6/9/2013 5:45 PM (GMT 0)
Do you believe its a self-confidence issue??
Posted 6/9/2013 8:12 PM (GMT 0)
Not really. If it were that, I probably wouldn't be there at all. I think I am just not a good conversationalist. I don't think very fast. Other people that do, it is like you can see the gears turning. Mine have something stuck in them. LOL...

Thanks anyway... I hope you have had a good day today.

Hugs, Karen
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