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Posted 6/17/2013 8:36 PM (GMT 0)
Hello Everyone

I am dealing with a lot of emotional stress. I separated from my husband in December and moved out with my two girl.
since then I have been dealing with a lot of emotional stress with a bad separation , father who try's to emotionally break me everyday. With constant harassing emails and texts, and doesn't help me at at with any support. Except every other weekend when he wants to be this great dad to our two young girls (4 years and20 months). But then doesn't care to see them any other day or give me any money towards them. I also lost my job in February.

The last two weeks I have been feeling up and down, I can not control my emotions, I am always thinking negative. I will think of a situation and scare myself that it will happen. I just recently met a great man who has been there for me and my girls. I have never felt like this before , but sometimes I get scared and put thought in my head "what if he isn't the one, what if when I'm near him he sees how emotional I am"

I talk to my family and they tell me that I need to snap out of it And stop thinking of this stuff.

But it's hard cause it feels I have no control over my thoughts and that scares me.

PLEASE Someone tell I'm not alone, and give me advise.

I also will not take any medication.
Posted 6/17/2013 9:18 PM (GMT 0)
I have seen a lawyer and they are dealing with my case, but nothing has happened. I got a lawyer in the middle of February but still nothing has happened just back and forth with mine and his lawyer.

I thought I wasn't ready either but then everything seemed right. My family started to see a happiness come out in me. That I was back to my old self. And everything seem like it be ok but then last week, it hit me and I felt like a emotion time bomb.
And that's when every decision I made I started to question it, but in a negative way.

That's why I'm so lost and scared why was I fine for a bit then all of sudden over welemed
Posted 6/17/2013 9:31 PM (GMT 0)
If he is harassing you, you should let your lawyer know. Keep track of all this, write it down with dates. It might help you with custody. You don't deserve to be harassed. Can you block his emails? I know you have to have some contact if he is seeing the kids, but do let your lawyer know what is going on.

Move slow with this new guy. Take your time, don't get in too deep incase it isn't the right thing for you. Just play it safe.

Hugs, Karen

I want to second what JB1 said about counseling. It really helps a lot especially if you have a lot of questions about things in life.
Posted 6/17/2013 9:41 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you everyone. I live in Whitby Ontario
Do you know any places I could go for counseling??
Posted 6/18/2013 12:37 AM (GMT 0)
We have a few from Canada. When they see your post, they will most likely post to you. I hope that you find some help soon...

Hang in there...

Hugs, Karen
Posted 6/18/2013 2:42 AM (GMT 0)
In Australia, there are services for abused spouse. There's also homes for abused women. You need to get support from those department.

As for the phone harassment, you can simply get a prepaid sim card, give him that number; tell him that you have changed number. He can harass you to his heart's content on that number, just don't check it. And always remember to call him on that number.

Like many has said, get legal aid, get pro bono attorney service. You need a lawyer.
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