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Posted 7/9/2013 3:55 AM (GMT 0)
hi,
last night my bf of 7 months broke up with me over the phone saying he needs space and hes always gunna be like this (depressed and thinking of *******) we have had a great relationship very loving never argued but the last month he has not want to leave his house and i only saw him once.i had been trying to get him to come see me but he has had no way of getting to me as he does not drive and he gets anxiety on the bus and my car has broken down so i was getting upset as i missed him and he also missed me to make things worse i wasnt allowed to stay at his house. im feeling so upset i cant stop crying shaking vomiting had no sleep or desire to eat.
i didnt really get a proper answer as to why he suddenly broke it off if he needed space all he had to do was say so. i miss him so much and when i started crying on the phone he ended up hanging up on me (im guessing cos he didnt want to hear me upset) then he just sent me a txt im sorry i havent heard from him since and im making myself more upset than i prob need to be i know 7months isnt that long but i had been single for 4 years proir due to another bad relationship.i havent contacted him and i wont for a week or so but i know he still loves me im just so sad and lost i feel like im never going to hear or see him again. any thoughts are appeciated,

Post Edited By Moderator (BnotAfraid) : 7/9/2013 4:02:21 AM (GMT-6)

Posted 7/9/2013 4:12 AM (GMT 0)
Hey love! I am new to the sight...@ I feel your pain and have felt it many times. its very important that you do little things just for you right now. sounds like he has his OWN issues...things you cannot take personally or fix. you can only give the strength you have yourself...so work on getting stronger and know in your heart/ Love is never a waste...never. Please take care of you right now!! find your favorite show...comfy socks...do your toes and know deep in your heart you are loved <3
Posted 7/9/2013 4:32 AM (GMT 0)
thanks jan66,
atm all i have is work which i dont want to go to as i work alone and my son who is nearly 8 he doesnt quite understand what im going through not sure if i do either right now if it wasnt for my son i dont think i would be getting out of bed.
Posted 7/9/2013 10:12 AM (GMT 0)
nzgirl,

Welcome to the forum, also welcome to jan66.

NZ I had to edit you post as we can not discuss or mention certain topics on this forum. please review the Forum Rules when you have a moment. Thank you.

There is a saying; NEVER GIVE AWAY YOUR MENTAL HEALTH, IT IS TOO PRECIOUS.

I believe no one else deserves it. We all work too hard to achieve our mental health in this day and age. Being a single parent is no easy task, and to let some person take it away from you without explaination is a sad thing.

If you are strong enough to be a mother of an 8 year old son, then you are strong enough to live without this person. You deserve someone who can be a partner with you, help support and guide your son. Love and care for you, and someone you can love back, not stress over. Life will be easier without this person. He has his own issues to take care of. Move on.

Peace and courage
Trina
Posted 7/9/2013 10:07 PM (GMT 0)
 

   Hey!!  I'm just checking in on you today.....being that we are both new to the forum.  I really hope you're feeling better today, even if it's just a tiny bit!!  :-)    Our situations aren't easy...but in unhealthy relationships we will surely sink.  i'm willing to bet you are stronger than you know...and I just want to encourage you to put you and your son's best interest first....you WILL get thru this...<3

Posted 7/10/2013 12:47 AM (GMT 0)
hi,
i had a bad night last night and my friend was worried so i had to take today off work and go to the doctors i have been diagnosed with anxiety im sure its to do with the break up as ive never had it before. im on medication to make me feel better and have taken one this morning i did help but i dont like the way it makes me feel however i have work tomorrow so i will continue them.i still my my ex very much and its weird for me to call him that im hoping for a reunion with him but i know it wont be for a while if it happens. i know some people say im better off without him but i dont see how i was fine with him but not now and i dont see how a person could be better away from the person they love than with them.
Posted 7/10/2013 1:02 AM (GMT 0)
Hang in there hon. Take care of you and your child, see what happens from there.

I wish you the best.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 7/10/2013 1:53 AM (GMT 0)
Hey! I'm so proud of you for going to get help....big step. If the medicine makes you feel funny...which many do..call ur dr. and see if there is another option. with time and strength all good things meant will be coming to you. I had a rough night too..but am going tomorrow to get things adjusted. One step and day at a time!! thinking of you....
Posted 7/10/2013 8:40 PM (GMT 0)
thanks for everyones advise i know i have a great son but to be honest i just dont care about anything else
Posted 7/10/2013 9:28 PM (GMT 0)
You need to care for your son's sake. Make his welfare the most important thing in your life. You will be blessed and you will never regret it.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 7/10/2013 11:51 PM (GMT 0)
 

Hey!!  just want you to know I am checking in on you...no advice, just concern.  I really hope you are finding the sometimes tiny things in life to grab a hold of.  your life raft can be a cup of coffee....5 min. walk...as long as it's something! praying you feel stronger today. smilewinkgrin

Posted 7/11/2013 1:50 AM (GMT 0)
thankyou so much jan66 its so nice to have a complete stranger try help i really appreciate it i decided to not take anymore of my meds today just to see how i am i was still feeling very groggy this morning i have stopped crying so much and now i actually feel ok which i find to be weird i dont know if its just a calm patch im having or what. ive kinda got my hopes up also as i decided to txt my ex today just to let him know im still thinking of him and that id like to talk to him when hes ready. i got a reply straight away saying thanks hun ill talk to you when im ready ok?? im hoping we get back together eventually sooner rather than later but it is all up to him i still keep running things over and over in my head cant seem to stop that (unless i take my pills) and i feel exhausted im still sad and have to keep reminding myself that we arent together which hurts today seems like a good day as i feel different
Posted 7/11/2013 2:38 AM (GMT 0)
Do take your medications to stop the obsessive type thinking. It helps.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 7/11/2013 2:48 AM (GMT 0)

  Hey!!!

    So glad you had a better day!  I did also and it is strange at times.  I don't know if you like to write and keep a journal but it can be a great way to see your thought process and get it out of you...I do this.  Hang in there girlie...and don't ignore the meds ability to help you thru this tough time. wink

Posted 7/11/2013 10:32 PM (GMT 0)
having a bad day today was writing my feelings in a letter to my ex dont know if ill give it to him but it made me really sad cant stop crying
Posted 7/12/2013 9:23 AM (GMT 0)
NZ,

I would suggest NOT giving him the letter. I don't believe it will make much of a difference.

I do hope you are back to taking you medicine today. This is very important that you stay on them.

Peace
Trina
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