why does my mind work like this

victoriaannemargret

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Posted 9/7/2013 2:02 AM (GMT 0)

yesterday one of my mums friends made a comment about my physical appearence. "theres nothing to you".

now in reality i know this comment was not meant to be hurtful. esoecially not on a emotional level. I mean i am very slender. but for some reason it brought me down. i couldnt help but think she was right. that there is nohing to me? not on a pysical level but on a mental level. sometimes i feel like there is nothing to me.

its silly but the comment hurt.
i think people need to filter what they say better.

getting by

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Posted 9/7/2013 10:15 AM (GMT 0)

Give the person a benefit of a doubt that they didn't mean it in a hurtful way. Try to be forgiving and then if you feel too thin, do something about it. Eat more, take in more calories. Some people are just thin, I was until I hit my 40's. I was so skinny it wasn't funny, but now I look at pictures of me then and I think I looked really good. I didn't feel it at the time though. ONe day at a time, benefit of a doubt and try to forget the comment. We do have control over how we think. Get that back... Plus she could be jealous and that is a whole nother story...

Keep posting, as it helps...

Hugs, Karen...

BnotAfraid

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Posted 9/7/2013 10:34 AM (GMT 0)

People speak before they think 98% of the time. especially family members.

in reality, she was most like telling you she was concerned about you being too thin or under weight. Which being under weight is not healthy. Can lead to health issues.

Yes, the comment is hurtful. However, try to take it for what it was. Words, just words. From a person that most likely loves you and is concerned.

Peace and courage
Trina

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