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Posted 9/28/2013 1:16 AM (GMT 0)

I'm new to this forum thing, but I've decided to give it a go. I'm a freshman in college and life is not going so well. When I got here, my boyfriend had just broken up with me, but he goes to my school and I kept seeing him around campus. Now we are back together, but my jealousy is hurting our relationship.

On top of that, my depression, which I struggled with a lot when I was younger, seems to be coming back in full swing. I cry all the time, feel hopeless and unloved, and can't seem to get back on my feet. I thought when I got back together with my boyfriend things would get better, but they haven't at all. I know that its me. I panic over stupid things, and sink really low over nothing. The boyfriend and a religious mentor of mine convinced me to go to the school's counseling service, but I'm scared, don't know what to expect, and really doubt that anything will help.

Is it normal for depression to come and go? I'm always low energy and not super happy, but there are times in my life where it gets really bad. Like now. I've never talked to anyone about how I've felt or anything like that, so I'm not really sure what the norm is.

Any advice would be lovely. I don't really know what I'm doing at all.

Posted 9/28/2013 2:05 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Monkeybread,

Welcome to the depression forum. I am glad you decided to join us.

Counseling can help a lot... It is usually one of the first steps on getting better. If the counselor feels you need it, they will have you talk to the psychiatrist, if there is one, and then you consider medications.

I think it is good you are going to try counseling. You will be glad that you did. It takes a lot of pressure off to be able to talk to somebody who can give you good sound advice and options. They will show you different ways to think. Which you probably need.

Jealousy, the green eyed monster... It makes us do things that we shouldn't and say things that we shouldn't. Because we feel insecure with ourselves. Once you get feeling better about yourself, you wont be jealous anymore.

I went through jealousy before. I finally told myself that if he is meant to be mine, he is. If he is going to cheat on me, he is... I finally didn't care. Later I found out he was trying to make me jealous, so I stopped being jealous all together. It was his insecurities that was making me jealous. Strange...

I hope that you can work through this. Jealousy doesn't look good on any of us either. Just so you know. It is hard to control. But admitting it is a good step. I hope you see the counselor. They will walk you through everything.

Hugs, Karen...
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