Hi Stacey, you've been through quite a shock! surely every fiber of your body has been in distress.
I do think everything has a rythm and a time and that it is needed of you to let this thing (event and emotions related to it)progress by itself.
As they say, for a fruit to attain maturity, it must go through cycles.
The same applies here, rythm and time is needed for you to put it behind, when the time is due. It will pass.
As for the coincidence, I cant pronounce myself.
I hope you feel better soon, Charlie