I have questions and I hope someone out there can give me some insight. The one thing I always do when my daughter is in full swing depression mode is try and figure out what to say or not to say. I wrote a very long e-mail to her a few weeks ago because I was mad, frustrated and hurt because she said I was always so negative and that she didn't need that right now. In this letter, I told her exactly how I felt, which wasn't all that nice. I waited and chose not to send it, seemed like a good idea. The next week I wrote another one, same thing....didn't send it. I asked myself if I wrote it to make me feel better? Was it going to help her or just hurt her more? Did I really want to add to what she was already going through? I still don't know the answers. I told myself I would wait until she was feeling better then we would have a long talk. I always think that, but when she is better I don't want to rock the boat.
I think she intimidates me...funny... but I don't allow anyone else to do this to me. I think of it as emotional blackmail for lack of a better term. What if something happens to her? I would never forgive myself and I do so want her to be happy and I hate to see her suffer through this alone. At this point I never know what to say? If I am going to step back and quit enabling her depression, do I tell her this?