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Posted 12/10/2013 12:41 PM (GMT 0)
Hello people. I want to ask some of you if you feel just like I do, because if there is someone, then at least I'm not the only one..
So, every week at least once a week when I come back from school, I feel hopeless, eventhough the day is over, I feel angry, eventhough I'm free from school and most of all, I feel empty/lonely, because I can't get any real friends or a girlfriend. I'm an immigrant, I live in Germany now for 2 years and a few months and I suck at school, at almost every subject that I used to be good at in the land I used to live in... I have no idea what the hell can I still do with my life, eventhough I'm only 16 and I have my whole life in front of me, well, that's what I used to think. I think about  more and more often and I don't know how much longer can I go on like this. I'm afraid to talk to people (epsecially girls), to socialize, to integrate and to fill in with the others. I always am the one who's ignored the most, who nobody wants to start a chat with and so on... I feel like a river of depression, like I'm locked down in my own mind and I imagine of having a beautiful, long lasting relationship with every girl I like from our school.. It's weird, I know, but I just feel like I need someone to help me and a girlfriend seems just the perfect person.. If I could actually get one. As I wake up in the early morning, getting ready for school, I never smile or talk to my parents, because it feels the same, like everyday I experience the same things and feel the same way.. And I'm writing this on the internet, because I don't know what else to do anymore... I'm losing it.

Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 12/10/2013 6:01:20 AM (GMT-7)

Posted 12/10/2013 1:04 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Bananaphone16,

Welcome to the depression forum. I had to edit your post for content, we can't discuss suicide on this forum, but that doesn't make your problem any less.

Have you thought about talking to a counselor about how you are feeling? It really does help.

Know that other people can't complete us, though it is nice to have friends and partners. We have to feel good about ourselves without other people involved in making that so.

I would focus on studies. You said you aren't doing as well. Your education is so important especially at your age. The rest will fall into place, I promise... See a counselor, talk about how you feel. I think it would be a safe way to help yourself.

I sure do hope that things get better soon. Keep posting, that helps too.

Others will be on to comment.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 12/10/2013 3:20 PM (GMT 0)
You are not alone, there are other people that feel they way you do. Being 16 and in a different country is very tough!

Concentrate on your studies for now. The rest will fall into place naturally. I am sure of it.

Peace and courage
Trina
Posted 12/10/2013 7:58 PM (GMT 0)
Good Evening Karen. Thank you very much for responding to me, it means alot!! I have another question if you don't mind - what or who's a counselor? I've heard about this profession, but I don't really know what it means.
Posted 12/10/2013 9:32 PM (GMT 0)
A counselor can also be called a therapist. It can be a psychologist even. But basically they talk to you. Ask questions and help you sort things out. I hope you have one where you are. Basically it is talk therapy. It gets you though difficult times. I hope that this helps some...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 12/11/2013 12:56 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you for explaining that, Karen! Unfortunately , here in Germany I don't have a counselor who could help me, even if I do find one, my German skills aren't good enough to fully express myself.. That's why I came to the internet, hoping to find someone who could maybe help me. And usually when I talk about these problems with someone, I never fully express myself, I just collapse at some point, because I literally can't talk about it, it just won't come out :( .. When I write about it, I have more time to think about how I explain the problem. But thank you again, Karen, it's nice that someone actually responds to me!
Posted 12/11/2013 1:29 PM (GMT 0)
Check out our resources thread, it is at the top of the page. Also there is moodgym.

http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome

It can help a lot with depression. I hope that you feel better soon. Do keep posting as it helps to just write things down. Many awesome people here to help too.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 12/11/2013 3:34 PM (GMT 0)
Hello .....

   Think of a counselor as someone to guide you thru most any type of emotional upheaval. There certainly must be a few bi-lingual near you. And using a counselor is not only NOT a sign of weakness .... it's a sign of maturity. Admitting that you need some guidance in life is a starting point that many people seem to deny!

   I've used a counselor for 3 different major impact things in my life. The first was after the early death of my Father and the punishing by my ex-wife thru my children. I was not good at socializing also ... and this psychologist helped me tremendously to gain respect for myself and to deal with losing several things close to me.

   The second time, many years later, was with a couples counselor - who tried to find a way of me and my lady partner to work things out together. That didn't work, but it made me realize my lady partner was not the right person for me - even after nearly 7-years of a relationship.

   And the third time, currently, I'm going to a psychologist who specializes in treating the emotions of a person with a terminal illness - most often cancer.

   Each one of these three helped me get thru serious life situations. I hope you'll try to find one for helping yourself.

Best wishes

Rob & Gizzy

 

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