I really don't know where to post this... but I am really struggling right now. I personally have Crohn's disease, so stress and anxiety is a huge trigger (I have posted in the Crohn's board about
all that stuff). The good news is my job is going well, I enjoy what I do, so this is not a trigger.
However, I am having issues in regards to my wife struggling with her job, and overall having a major issue with thinking she is worthless, in the middle of a three month probationary period because of her attitude (which she has had the job over a year, this just started after her 1 year anniversary). She already tends to have major mood swings, to which I think there is more to that and she needs some proper medicine to help with that situation... but she refuses to go to the doctor as she doesn't want to take off of work, and it is too far away to the closest mental health doctor.
My stress is trying to support her. I am starting to lose it, because she can't make a decision on what to do, and I am not even sure going to another place will help this. I am personally worried about if she loses her job, she will be without insurance and we will lose that income. I am already struggling as I have to have surgery in January, and my insurance isn't that great. If I would have to add her to my plan to help cover her asthma expenses and hopefully some mental treatment, it would cost me an extra $200 per paycheck.... which would mean after our mortgage gets paid (not a large one, either... less than rent in the area), we would only have $150 left per paycheck to pay bills with... not nearly enough to cover the car payments and electric bills, not to mention food. So short story... we need her income and I need her to get back on track..
I just don't know how to go about this... and what to even do. She feels like everyone at her workplace is against her and causing issues, she refuses to talk to her boss about this stuff, and will not seek help for herself in getting her mental health better. Not to mention, no matter how much comforting I try to do, it isn't enough and she can't seem to figure out how to fix the issue herself. It is like she is self imploding and mentally I am starting to lose it, as I am trying to take care of my own health and get healthy, in addition to handling all the bills of the house, and trying to help her with her calm down which is seeming like a daily thing... which doesn't allow us to take care of the chores in the house as it takes me a couple hours to calm her down.
Sorry for rambling... I just don't know where to go about this... and can't seem to figure out what to do... thank you for any help you can give me!