Helping and healing thoughts and prayers for A/V

I just read the daily thread and A/V is having a very awful time. I will not post her business but please pray or send thoughts for her.

I have been in her shoes and this makes me want to cry and be angry all at once.

A/V need encouragement and any other help we can offer.

Please lets rally around A/V she needs us.

AV ......

   Please see an attorney.

   After all, what is child support for?

   No reason your ex should get the kids!

Peace and wellness

Rob & Gizmo

 

Thanks guys, it's nice to feel like I'm not completely alone. It's been a bad few days. My house is so quiet and still. I laid in my daughters room for a bit tonight. I miss helping with homework, brushing her hair (she hates having her hair brushed so we have a game where I get a minute on the timer and I have to race to have it all brushed in time), I miss sniffing my son's hair to make sure he really washed it. We have so many rituals, partly to my OCD but because I've been raising them mostly by myself all their lives. The crying in the phone calls just kills me. I can't stand for them to cry and I can't fix it. I'm picking them up from school tomorrow. I'm going to make their favorite meals and we are going to play board games, make Hello Kitty cookies, and watch movies.

I contacted legal aide today. Being on SSI means that I automatically qualify. I've got a meeting on Tuesday. I also talked to my landlord and he's willing to accept hud so I got those papers in. I'm all signed up for a program here that helps with utility bills and for foodstamps. I also made an appointment to go back to my psychiatrist on Monday.

The mom junk created more of a nuisance today. I have her number blocked on my phone but it still lets her leave messages. My phone has been dropped a few times so now I can't delete my void emails without listening. She said she talked to my ex and the kids will be spending a week with her in the summer. Her new husband is an alcoholic who threatened to ***********the first time they were married so I don't want my kids around him. I called my kids and spoke to their dad. He said it was all lies. He hates her new husband and agrees with me. She said some other stuff. She said I'm a cold hearted b word, that I have no one because I'm a horrible person. That I'm just a leech on society. I'm trying to not think on all of that. I'm still not sleeping for more than 40ish minutes at a time plus constant panic attacks (vomiting, nausea, headache, dizziness, chest pain, and heart palpitations). I'm trying to not think about much because I know I'm not in a great state of mind. Anyway, that's enough from my world of suck.

Post Edited By Moderator (BnotAfraid) : 1/31/2014 9:05:42 AM (GMT-7)

AV-

I am sending many, many prayers and good thoughts your way. I am so sorry for all that you are enduring. I am so proud of you for all the positive steps you are making. Continue forward!

Sending my love-
Michele

I'm so sorry for what you are going through AV, I can't begin to imagine how awful you must be feeling. You have to fight fight fight, don't give up. Find yourself a good lawyer. And don't let this have you believing you are not a good mom, you are a great mom and you deserve your kids with you. It can't be all about money.

As for your mom, you need her out of your life completely, if she can't be your mom, your friend and the kids grandma, all together then you can't cope with her in your life. No mom should speak to her daughter like that, she's the one with the BIG problem. Make sure you don't let what she said get under your skin.

Thinking of you and praying for better times.

(((Hugs)))

Jane

A/V- I know it is not the same but stay strong hun it will all be over soon. I would be pissed to know end that he spanked her. Oh my gosh as a former bed wetter I know how embarrsed that someone hit me for something that I could not control. Im sorry he does that to your baby girl. I would let the courts know what you have been told so that the judge can take that into consideration.