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Posted 4/10/2014 10:21 AM (GMT 0)
I am new to this blog, and its the first time I have done something like this. I am trying all sorts of angles and seeing what works... I am seeing a shrink and its going ok, the only problem I sit with is between the sessions I feel lost and alone. Like I have to function normally till the next session when we can tackle my issues. I don't know how to handle the feelings, the pain and hurt. I just want it to all go away but I know it wont until I have dealt with them. So how does any of you manage to function day to day and get through the days and nights when you feeling so hurt and down and depressed. The only time I don't feel that way is when I am drinking or popping a pill or two and that in itself scares me too because I don't wanna become dependant on either of those things, but the feeling of relief when I do have a few drinks or a pill or two is such a pleasure. Its like seeing the sun after weeks of rain and clouds.
Posted 4/10/2014 11:05 AM (GMT 0)
What kind of pills are you talking about??? Drinking is what is making you depressed. After the buzz wears off, you are going to get depressed. Alcohol is a depressant.

Do you see a psychiatrist or a psychologist? Have you told them about the drinking and the pills?

I hope you get better soon...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 4/10/2014 12:14 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Karen, thanks for your reply. I am seeing both a psychologist and a psychiatrist. They have put me onto anti-depressants, but its not helping. I am on sertra, fluoxetine and risperlet. The other pills i am taking are just over the counter pills - syndol. I am trying anything at this stage to feel better, but i know the only way i can really feel better is to deal with these hurting and painful feelings and take their power away from them, its just very hard to deal...
Posted 4/10/2014 12:22 PM (GMT 0)
Are you in an anti-depressant? Have you gone through a depression before? Are there things that led up to the funk you're in? Medication can help. It's a great tool. Physical activities, journaling, talking with friends or family etc. A distraction would be nice right now. Do you work? Positive mantras to replace your idle time in your head- "I will get better", "I am getting better", things like that to replace the negative record in your head that keeps playing over and over.

I 100% understand what you're going through. I'm in it myself and it sucks. My therapist has advices me to try not to figure it out or overthink it (easier said than done, I know!), but it IS possible with constantly refocusing when you recognize the negativity. It's hard but it's a work in progress. Practice it, daily, hourly, minute by minute. Make it a life change. My husband said "never waste a good crisis", ie you can absolutely become better bc of this. You're not alone or crazy, you're "just depressed." It feels terrible I know but it truly is "just depression" and it never lasts. The right tools can speed along the process- therapy, meds, positive self talk, distractions, practicing gratitude, praying, physical exercise ETC.

Hang in there, it'll be ok before you know. Just use the tools and meds if possible to get through it!

Blessings, Lisa
Posted 4/10/2014 5:25 PM (GMT 0)
Refocusing helps but it is hard, I have actually learnt how to do it for the most part as for a solid 2 years my mind was exploding every single day with all the problems and terrible heartache that was going on with family members and other things.

For some time too I pushed it all to the back of my mind as it was too much, unfortunately it's usually right there in the back ground just waiting to come back.

It does hurt so much to feel and to talk about heartbreaking issues, we just want it to all go away. I realized what it was doing to me mentally and physically and I needed to work through the problems as I did not want to feel that way for the rest of my life.

For me, I focus on the problems for maybe 30 mins-an hour and then stop, go do something else, anything...watch a movie, go for a walk, go out with my daughter's, get my mind off it somehow and it does work, it's torture otherwise. Telling yourself you're doing the best you can...

Realized that going over and over stuff and feeling so terrible was not helping or solving anything, I'd just be back to square one the next day.

It is SO painful talking about this terrible stuff but once it's all out you do start to feel a little better, the negative feelings of course come and go but it's a start otherwise the pain will just follow constantly.

Big hugs to you...
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