He's depressed and ended us

I really need some help and advice... Iv tried other forums but having no luck.

Been seeing an amazing guy for a couple of months.... The first month was amazing we instantly fell in love. Then he became very distant and pushed me away.

Thing is.... Hes depressed and has ended our little relationship. His life's up in the air at the minute, hes just handed his notice in at his job (which he said was the main factor of his depression) to start a fresh job on Monday. He was working 13 hour days and only getting paid 8. He worrys about his finances constantly and also has little time with his son. So im hopeful that once hes started this great new job he may feel happier and one day... Come back to me.

Iv been very supportive with him, maybe crumbled a little at his confusing behaviour but who wouldnt. He ended things last Monday so i gave him time and space until this morning... I saw him on a dating site (where we first met), and i stupidly had signed back up as well, mainly for a little comfort. I text him, he told me he saw me on there and decided to do the same. Iv deleted it, i cant bare the thought of seeing him on there again.

Wev had a good chat via text, hes said he misses me but needs time alone.
Hes made small progress while iv given him space, iv said il wait for him he told me dont build up my hopes up and wait as its not fair on me...

Iv initiated a 2 weeks no contact... His reply "ok if you think that would help, all i will say is try not to build your hopes up cause im in a strange place at the minute im confused and have no idea what i want, we had good times and please for one minute think that this is your doing cause i couldnt fault ya you have been great".

So my next reply was.... "Well listen im not gonna be selfish and pester you about us anymore. If you feel like you could use a giggle (like old times) tomorrow then defo gimme a shout it would be great to see you" So his response is "Oki doki appreciate it xxx"

What do i do?

Is it normal that hes practically telling me not to wait, to re-join this dating site and keep my options open?

Thank you for your replies.

Wev spoken alot today, hes been quite lovely and i guess supportive towards my feelings too. Hes promised to work hard on getting himself better and iv promised to give him his space, but he also knows im here if he needs me.

Hes told me he cant wait to get back to his old self.... And iv told him i cant wait to meet him. He said... "You will like him"

Is this a little hope for me?

I don't think hes interested anymore, but wants to be kind, let you down gently, its a familiar story with men, rather than being honest. I wouldn't waste any more time approaching him, or texting him, let him come to you...and if you hear nothing then you have your answer.

I would like to believe him when he said, he saw me on there and thought why not. Im also hoping that he too went back online for some comfort just like i did.

Its his first day at his new job today.... Im dying to message him and wish him all the best but thats going to break my no contact... Do i or dont i?

Take this one day at a time... Take everything at face value. Don't let him play with your heart. Have an honest conversation about it.

Hugs Karen

If he cares he would.

Ok last Friday i opened up to him, told him how i felt and his response was he told me to move on... We want different things. I didnt respond to it and chose to just back away.

Iv noticed this morning hes blocked me on facebook, not just me, my daughter too?

Can anyone help me to understand whats going on in his mind?

Thank you for the hugs.... They are needed right now.

I dont understand why hes chose to block me out of his cyber life when i havent hassled him, iv left him in peace.

Hanging on is becoming a little hard now.... Thank you for your reply :)

I think you are doing the right thing, though it probably doesn't feel very good. Hang in there, work on you now. What is meant to be will be.

I hope you are feeling better. I am sorry that you are going through this. But I think you will find happiness in the long run.

Keep posting, it helps...

Hugs, Karen...

I am sure that you do miss him dearly, but you are doing the right thing. I am glad you are getting your hair done. That always makes me feel better. It is important to do things for yourself. Good things...

I think in time you will find that this is the best. I hope his dad doesn't tell him that you are checking up on him, that was good thinking on your part, I am sure you are concerned about him.

Take care and know we all care about you. Keep on keeping on...

Hugs, Karen...

Maybe he is due for a med change. I don't think he should go off them, but I don't know. Maybe they are making him feel worse. Often they fizzle out or need something else added. I guess he can only work this out. Just as long as he is seeing his doctor and the doctor is helping. I am sorry you are going through this, it is difficult I know.

Keep us posted. I hope that things get better.

Hugs, Karen...