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Posted 5/18/2014 6:05 PM (GMT 0)
Been a few weeks since I have posted
I have been taking Cipralax 10mg for about 8 months. My doctor has added 30mg Remeron. I dont seem to be feeling any better. I sleep really well now but still wake up depressed and not wanting to face the day. I started a new job and that should keep me positive for the day but it doesn't. Don't know what to do anymore, I feel like this feeling will never end. I see a therapist every three weeks but that only makes me feel better for a day or so. If I do everything she says I should do daily, it would be a full time job.
I cantntake this anymore. I just want to be happy again.
Posted 5/18/2014 6:38 PM (GMT 0)
hi sparky. what makes you happy? or did. happiness comes from within. sometimes it is about creating some new happiness as the old happiness sort of blows out like a candle. sounds like some you time is required. sending healing thoughts your way. things do and will get better.
Posted 5/18/2014 6:45 PM (GMT 0)
I've been trying. I took some me time but it only made me more lonely and depressed. Even when I am with my son I am down.
Posted 5/18/2014 6:54 PM (GMT 0)
i feel it is time to verbalize what is happening to the doc. sounds maybe a med change may well be warranted. feel better soon.
Posted 5/18/2014 8:25 PM (GMT 0)
I am really worried that transitioning meds will cause mento go downhill more
Posted 5/18/2014 10:03 PM (GMT 0)
All you can do is try. Gradually you should start feeling better from the remeron, how long have you been taking it? I sure do hope you feel better soon.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 5/18/2014 10:18 PM (GMT 0)
Have been on it three weeks now. All it seems to do is make me sleepy. My dr. gave me 10 1mg Adavin to get me by til Remeron kicked in, but after three weeks i was hoping to feel better. i seem to be steady but always depressed and don't want to go on feeling like this
Posted 5/18/2014 10:58 PM (GMT 0)
It can take 6 weeks for the medication to be in full effect. Try giving it more time. During that time make sure you get up, shower, and tackle the day. That can help keep things from getting worse. If after the 6 weeks has passed you don't feel better then it's time to see the dr.
Posted 5/18/2014 11:03 PM (GMT 0)
She only gave me one month, so I need to see her this week anyway. Just want to feel better. I do everything asked of me.
Posted 5/19/2014 6:04 PM (GMT 0)
Are you using coping skills also? We have to work as hard as the medications do. The meds do not do it all, I am sad to say.

Then sometime the darkness last longer then we want. Do you see a therapist? If not it might be time to do so. It really does help if you open up and be honest.

Peace
Trina
Posted 5/19/2014 7:44 PM (GMT 0)
I see a therapist. It's hard doing the coping skills all the time when you don't see results.
Posted 5/19/2014 8:08 PM (GMT 0)
You need to make the coping skills a part of your life, it takes constant practice. Learn about mindfulness. It really does help. After awhile it all comes natural to you. It isn't 'hard, it isn't like work, it is just a new way of using your mind.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 5/19/2014 8:20 PM (GMT 0)
So many coping skills for so many issues lol. It's frustrating. I used to be a really happy, glass half full person without trying. Then my life turned and I can't get used to having to work at being something I always thought I was. Maybe I will just have to get use to being that sad depressed guy instead.
Posted 5/19/2014 10:15 PM (GMT 0)
I don't understand why you don't want to work the skills into your everyday life. It is not hard, it is not overwhelming. You need to try. It isn't work. It is just a new way of looking at things. You need to listen to your therapist. I don't see you wanting to try. It really is easy. Get a self help book, or go to the resource thread and look for the link on mindfulness. Coping helps. You don't want to be stuck being depressed. But it sounds like that is comfortable for you.
Posted 5/19/2014 10:58 PM (GMT 0)
I have to agree with Karen and Trina. Yes, sometimes it is hard to practice what others preach. But the more you do it, the easier it gets, until it becomes automatic. Right now, your default is stay sad and depressed. It's time to buck up, and change the default. It's not hard to do use these skills--it's just comfortable.

Life is full of ups and downs. I have been down for about four years, but am slowly coming back up again. Slowly.

Tell doc. Be clear. Maybe it is time to add a session.
Posted 5/20/2014 12:16 AM (GMT 0)
I have no idea what triggered your depressive breakdown. But I do know if your current therapist is not helping you to understand what triggered it, I would suggest changing your therapist. You appear to have no idea why you are depressed. I'm not a fan of endless navel-gaving, but a certain amount of introspection is necessary to know ourselves.

Since the practical CBT approach isn't working out too well for you, I'd try a more psychological/analytical approach. I think nearly all depression has its roots in our past, personally speaking. Finding the root causes won't magically make you better (particularly if you are stuck in a grim present), but it's a starting ground.

Best of luck, Sparky. Hang in there. You are not doomed to be depressed forever.
Posted 5/20/2014 1:59 AM (GMT 0)
We do think we know where it started, just everytime we meet to work on it more crap happens in my life.that needs immediate work. I was able to control my anxieties, but now the depression is kicking in. Whether its my latest breakup, change of job, fighting with ex about custody, payments......Friends that are tired of hearing my crap etc.
Sounds so easy to say buck up and use coping skills. I wish it was that easy. Took a year to learn to cope with anxiety, now I'm starting over again.
Posted 5/20/2014 2:17 AM (GMT 0)
If you work on coping skills with the present, it will give your mind a chance to explore the past if that is where you wish to work. Either way you go, you are going to have to learn to cope with the present. So don't give up on the skills. It all takes time and some work on your part. I wish you the best...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 5/20/2014 5:19 PM (GMT 0)
That in itself is a coping skill Carl. It is yours. So none the less, they work...
Posted 5/20/2014 5:39 PM (GMT 0)
Why are you being defensive Carl. I think you misinterpreted what I said. It is a coping skill none the less. I think it is cool.
Posted 5/21/2014 12:08 AM (GMT 0)
I guess I have no choice but to try coping. Nothing else works
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