Posted 5/22/2014 12:36 AM (GMT 0)
Almost 6 weeks ago, my girlfriend of almost a year, suddenly said that she loved me but was not in love with me. It totally shook my world. We had planned to get married this coming September, and was in the planning stage, even meeting a minister. We had always been in constant contact either in person, on the phone or by text message over the past 10 months. She was on med up until around the New Year and then she finished the prescription. I worried at the time that stopping was a bad idea but I then hoped that being with me she would have all the support and love and would not have to return to them, but I think she should go back on them or another med and let it work to stabilize her. After Christmas, we lived together at her place 4 of the 7 days of the week and then suddenly she dropped that bombshell on me in the middle of April. She has had depression before and this illness seems to come to her during the spring because of past events in her life. We are both in our early 60s and I know she loved me and worried about me, as I her. She would send me text messages when she didn't hear from me stating that she was worried that something had happened to me and for me to contact her. And then I would call her to reassure her that I was all right. I love her dearly and worry about her. She used to respond to my emails and text messages but now there is no contact with her at all for over 10 days. I know she hasn't done anything to hurt herself (I hope!) as I had a friend contact her. What should I do. I love her and want to get back with her and help her so that she does not go through all this mental suffering. Should I leave her alone and let her work through all this herself and hope she eventually contacts me or should I continue to send emails and text messages to her without getting any response from her. I don't wish to drive her away as I want to be back in her life. Help!