Posted 7/24/2014 8:24 PM (GMT 0)
Hello all first of all and thank you for sharing and helping people with problems here, really read through and thought I could share my experience and get some feedback from an experienced person.
Long story short, we fell in love . like really , i had a wife living seperately , had a 2 year old kid, first time i see her, i went up to her and told her ' wow finally someone beautiful here' between every girls and she was so embarrassed. but anyway we went on a date, and the first date i told her everything. i had a wife and a kid and da da da da but if you are okay i would really like to give us a try and there we were, dated 1 year 8 months lived together, but we were kind of , anti social. she was a dancer, but she had health problems and couldn't continue , so she was already on medications when we were dating, nearly 8-9 pills a day...but we were still normal , i mean , we stayed home mostly , and had some financial problems here and there, but we survived but i think these made her worse, AND we were quite different, i am 27 she is 21 and our characters are a bit different too, shes more of a free spirit and im more of a serious facts guy , due to my age or friend group i guess,... she was never jealous before , im her only 2nd bf and she never dated anyone more then 2 months,,, to sum it up i was a bit jealous, controlling type but always tried to fix myself, which i did towards the end of our relation,,,She dint want to work, i was the only one working, she would sleep almost 13-14 hours a day, i would come from work at 4-5 pm and she would just wake up and we would just eat, sit and sleep...same cycle,,, wanted to change things, found her a dancing job! she loved it at first but got tired again...so couldn't do it ...so we were back to square one again... before we moved to our new apartment she had a break down,. cried,,, wanted to go back to her parents (another city)... then we talked ,, cried,,, and then she changed her mind,,,but then to square one again...we moved to our new pllace... after 2 weeks,...i came back from run...and she was gone.... called her parents ... they came picked her up and left...
since then its been almost 2 months ....i was devastated,,,,she was too,,,she started missing me and we again started dating...over the phone...text..skype...then i took her to a holiday thought things would get easier for her...it was awesome...had a blast and dropped her back at her parents home.... since then we talked...i love you's , i miss yous...she started she wants to come back to school here , she said now she believes i have changed and all....because her parents are forcing her to go to school there ( she doesn't have a post secondary education) but anyways everything was like that till last night....she called me and told me that 2 days ago ,, when she told me she was doing something else,,,she actually went out with her friends ,,,, and a guy friend who she had a small past with and because of him ,,, i argued with her other friend because she was mentioning him to her over the Facebook when we were dating...so ya those two people im guessing changed her mind or whatever.... I even offered her I could apologize from her friend for my outburst(small story about what happened , her friend mentioned that guy on the facebook to her...that he still likes you kind of thing,,so I wrote her a reply ..then we got into argument with her friend...I was kind of crazy i should admit...super jealous and controlling)but ya last night she told me shes not coming back...i only want her to come back because of me not because of her ( im guessing her friends told her these things because who changed like that in one night) and the reason she couldn't tell me she was going out with them that i would be sad and jealous. i told her i wouldn't be and she knows that i have changed...
and then she started saying i love you again,, that i don't know what to do and all...but i m not coming there for school...i love you i just dont want to keep texting and feeling i m obligated to tell you all the time what im doing and stuff... i still said okay...and asked so whats the verdict...she said i dont know all i know is that you are the love of my life.... but i dont want to keep texting...
i asked my friends,,, one of my older friend told me just to text her that ' i love you so much that i m letting you go and giving your space' and then she said she will come back. she will start missing you.she will maybe even wont be able to pass the school ... and she will eventually come back... that gave me so much hope because I really want to prove her that we can be happy... i changed... making more money now even considered buying her a car that she knows about. and was so excited ...
if anyone could please tell me what you guys think , how should I act or if there is even a hope she will come back or not that would be highly appreciated...
sorry for the long story too my apologies,,