FOR THE BENEFIT OF DEPRESSION

Hello Everyone.

Lately, there have been a handful of postings that have not been helpful in reducing, handling or understanding Depression.

I might go as far to say, the contents of the posts could increase some peoples Depression, shy them away from the Forum and/or encourage more undesirable messages.

My point is that this is not Face Book nor Twitter.

This Forum, is a SAFE PLACE for people from anywhere to come and read, unburden, share, learn, listen and support each other. So everyone knows that none of us are alone. Not alone and fully accepted without judgements.

The members only have to follow a few simple rules to keep respect of others in place. If anyone has questions about these rules, take time to review them. Top right of screen.

Thank you all for taking the time to read this and take it to heart. We are a community, albeit Virtual, for some that is all they have or want, and that makes us much for important than some think.

I was all Peace and comfort
Trina

All that is being asked is that everybody keep the support in the forum. There was no pointing fingers by Trina. I did though. What RecoveryMe2day posted wasn't very kind. Saying that the moderator's are uncaring. We are not uncaring.

You got to understand that we are basically here to make sure that everything runs smoothly and that feathers don't get ruffled. That it remains a forum of support. Granted we all have a mental illness. That is why I started coming here in the first place. Nobody is above fault. But Trina was just giving a gentle reminder of what the forum is about. There is nothing wrong with that.

Trina locked a thread that was heading in the wrong direction. Nobody's hands were slapped.

I edited your post as you are insinuating that we don't accept everybody here and you are promoting another forum. You can email the members if you want to promote another forum other than this one. It would be helpful I am sure.

I imagine you feel bad because your thread was locked. But it is up to the moderator to decide on threads that are open or not. If the moderator sees it fit to lock a thread, they are going to do so. As I said, no one is being reprimanded...

I hope that you can understand, we as moderators do work hard. I am on the forum a lot. I moderate two forums at this time. We are not perfect, just trying to be of help to the members of this community.

I respect the moderators decision to lock any thread, I also understand that some of us are more sensitive about certain issues than others, that's why personally I don't read every question, quote or comment posted. If I see it doesn't help me, I immediately move on, or if I find I can't help someone with my own experience I move on.

As with any discussion people pick and chose who they will comment to any way, as much as I wanted to make a comment on a locked thread the other day, I chose to remain silent because it was just plain ignorant, and the person that exclusively commented to this person said more than I could have said in a week, and I personally was glad to see what he wrote, but that was my opinion.

I believe any thing can be a trigger, people have to set their own boundaries and only they know their triggers, if you can't read about the effects and physical feelings you get from anxiety. move to another topic, but for those of us that can benefit from it, we should be able to understand we are not alone, and yet be empathetic to others.

If one thing starts triggering people, than every thing will eventually be censored and then the forum would be come little to no use to those of us that need it.

This is just my humble opinion, not directed at any one, we as adults need to be able to censor the topics that may not help us by scrolling by, just a thought.

Post Edited (brendaboo) : 8/23/2014 11:40:02 AM (GMT-6)

The pure dismissal of my posts from the moderators of this forum and topic speaks volumes, although it has been greatly helpful for me to come and read that I am not alone, I know people trade e-mails and I am sure there are things said privately about some of us, and thus the lack of response to any of my posts, but I am fine with that, I would rather stand alone with my principals that no ones questions or issues are more important than another, but I see that is not the case.

Closure is moving on, totally ignoring someones post, whether you agree with it or not, is dismissal that their opinion is not welcomed here, so if we ignore them they will go away, which is really sad, because I felt great comfort here, but one persons issues should not censor every day issues that we as people suffering greatly from depression/anxiety now feel the need to just not say anything.

There are cliques in every forum/chat room I have ever been too, and I am assuming by the dismissal of my post that this is the same in here.

I totally agree with Simon, which probably put me on the bad girls list, and that I can accept, because people that don't stand for anything stand alone. No one has to agree with each ones opinion, just like I don't agree with a doctor giving a patient 6 different medications, but I would never belittle someone or dismiss them because their views are not mine.

Ironically this "for the benefit of depression" post was not only for matt and simon, in my opinion. If we truly want to benefit people suffering from depression, don't make them feel guilty when they post the feeling they had that day and how their day is not going well, if someone has to apologize because they posted and came here for empathy from others that may have struggled with the same thing, makes you not want to even cry out for help, thus I must go and read the rules of the forum, apparently I am so unaware of what is censored, and maybe we can get a list of those we shouldn't offend by telling how our depression makes us feel.

Guess what , I woke up shaky and just an over all feeling of depression, wonder how many people that will trigger to not want to read my posts.

Dismissal of someone, is just as bad as saying, we wish you weren't here, you don't write about rainbows and ponies so you are not benefiting the group with you horrific tales of woe and sorrow, and really if you are looking for a sympathetic ear, wait till you earned that privilege.

My one cent, peace out~

Brenda, I believe I did respond a couple things to you. Unfortunately, my own depression hit a big downward spiral. When I get bad I don't respond as much because the depression colors my perspective and makes me less helpful. Not to mention my recent stent in a mental health facility. I had no internet access for that time.

It can be a hard line to walk. We need to discuss our thoughts and feelings to get better but certain things can make other people with similar problems have a backslide. That was something discussed in the group therapy. We all have different triggers. Personally, my triggers tend to be of a more personal nature. I feel better when I can help. If you have something to say that is against the rules here you can email me. That's an offer to anyone. That's why we have our emails on our profiles.

No one is perfect. I'm sure we all have dine something, without intention, that broke a rule. Forums are all different and sometimes one may not meet your personal needs. I can say that, for the most part, I do feel like I've been able to share my negative thought processes. There is a focus on trying to remain upbeat. That's a coping mechanism. My therapist is always talking about changing my thought process. You shouldn't feel unable to talk, and I really do mean that you can reach out to me privately, if you'd like.