Forgiveness

Well put Myself...

I think forgiveness lifts a heavy burden off of your shoulders and you are free to go about and live your life.

It brings peace...

Hugs, Karen

Oh Chele, that made me get tears in my eyes. You are a very special person. Thank you for sharing this. More people need to see, hear and believe this and have good people in their lives.

I've a cpl of friends (they're sisters ironically,l), who've kind of ditched me in my struggle this year. Never mind that my hubby and I let one of them live with us for 4 days/week for 6 months while she was working and going to school in our city. I never asked her for a dime. I was happy to do it and enjoyed the company.

Anywayyyyyy- she and her sister have pretty much told me they don't tolerate "emotions." I guess you call them fair weather friends. I'd have never guessed they'd be like that. Admittedly, they both have past hurts and demons from their past growing up and one is on anti depressants. They're the type that can "buck up" in adversity. I guess they've a tougher skin than me from having past traumas.

My husband, who is not "psychologically versed", said "they just don't have it to give you bc of their own issues. Don't take it personally."

He's so right. But, it's still kind of a loss for me bc I know I can only count on them in "fair weather." Needless to say, I've distanced myself a bit from them and I'm getting ok with that.

When you say "we will carry you when you can no longer walk", it just makes my eyes well up with tears bc I don't think there is anything more perfect to tell someone when they're in the darkness.

That's why I love this forum!!!

Hugs to everyone!!!

Lisa

Michele, you're a beautiful woman and human being. Thanks for being you. I'd carry you on my shoulders any day.

Jan

What a lovely post, and I have to believe even if someone doesn't forgive us, that we did our best and tried to reach out for forgiveness, if they do not have a forgiving heart nothing you can say can change how they feel about you, and you have to move on.

Sometimes and takes a lot to ask for forgiveness, not that I am too proud, but the fear of rejection, and it does happen, so I personally just have to take it that in time they will forgive, or they have an issue.

I am very quick to forgive, so when someone doesn't forgive me, it does hurt, but if I allow one person to ruin my day because they can't accept an apology, then it becomes my issue, and I have to realize some people hold grudges and are just bitter people.

I know during a crisis we can take things very personally, I am a very non aggressive person, I allow people to treat me badly and never say a word, my therapist told me I need to speak up for myself, but I have to be careful when I speak up for myself, apparently!

I hope you have a wonderful day.