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Posted 9/23/2014 12:05 AM (GMT 0)
My husband has been depressed for years now but his behavior is getting worse. His dad died recently. We have 2 sons giving us trouble. He hates his job. He has unreasonable temper tantrums and has become controlling. I don't want to leave him but he manages to ruin weekends and holidays. I walk on eggshells; he's a ticking time bomb. Am I alone?
Posted 9/23/2014 8:16 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Angeleye,

Welcome to the forum. I am so sorry for what you are going through... Is there any way your husband would go to a psychiatrist or psychologist? I sounds like he needs to.

You probably would benefit from psychologist or a therapist to help you through this. They give us direction and verification of our feelings. I really am sorry that you are having to go through this. A controlling husband is no fun. I had one once and I found the best thing I did was go out and get a job. He didn't want me to work, but I did.

I hope that things get better for you. Keep posting and know you aren't alone here...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 9/23/2014 8:16 AM (GMT 0)
hi angeleye. my strong suggestion is for you to consider your health. my deepest condolences over the loss of his dad. this will be hard. he needs some people around him. some mates. maybe a close mate can have a chat and just maybe coax him to going to see the doc. is hubby on an medication? this may well be an option. as is therapy, but he may balk at these. i feel that it is important to discuss your concerns with him, but with his father recently passing this may be a bad time, but the conversation needs to happen. remember your health and safety okay. keep posing, we are here for you and care. others will come on with further information and support. healing thoughts i send you.
Posted 9/23/2014 5:22 PM (GMT 0)
Perhaps you could get your husband to join a grief support group, if he refuses therapy.

stay safe

Peace
Trina
Posted 10/1/2014 4:11 AM (GMT 0)
stay safe and feels we in same boat ~

keep us posted !
Posted 10/1/2014 4:21 AM (GMT 0)
Hey...I'm sorry for what you are going through.  Your husband is "acting out" and you are his scapegoat.  Your sons are taking advantage of the imbalance of power in your home right now.

As long as you walk on egg shells, He will continue to lay the eggs...Nip it in the bud.  Tell him he has to get therapy to deal with his grief.  He has lost his dad, which will not change.  However, he will lose his family if he doesn't get help.  As for your boys, I totally believe in old school "take away their privileges, whether physical or technological".  Take it all away to show them you're not playing.

TAKE BACK YOUR POWER before you are lost in HIS.

Hugs~~Dixie

Posted 10/1/2014 5:03 PM (GMT 0)
Remember your boys have lost a grandfather, their Dad is not in a situation to comfort them, termiol at home.

Grief counseling for your husband, possibly for the whole family would be wise. Sounds like that was a trigger that set something off in your husband that needs to be delt with.

An open calm conversation with your husband is a good start. If he starts to get upset, keep your voice low, see if it helps. If he continues to get upset end the conversation and leave. You can only try your best.

Peace and strength
Trina
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