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Posted 10/25/2014 1:22 AM (GMT 0)
I do not want to be a single mom or a mom in general anymore, as much as I love my son I can not have 10 seconds to my dang self anymore and I am sick of it! Done I say done! I am done with him not wanting to listen, I done with whiny crying b.s I am done. I am sick with stress all the dang time, done. I sick with. Done I am done I don't want a do to anymore. I JUST AM DONE.
Posted 10/25/2014 2:15 AM (GMT 0)
Hi, do you want to talk?
Posted 10/25/2014 2:27 AM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry you're struggling with this! I've heard this same struggle by almost ALL of my mom friends. Half are single moms who's exes do not help with the children at all.

How old is your son, I forget. Does he go to school full time? Do you have any family or friends near to ask for some help? If he's in school, what're you doing for yourself to re-charge during the day, for your own self?

We are here to support you. Even tho we are not with you in person, we are here and even though I never had children, I completely sympathize!

Sending you much love & understanding-
Lisa
Posted 10/25/2014 3:56 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Jessica,
I know how you feel as i have a husband who acts like a 2 yr most of times .It can difficult at times with kids and adults .SO plz hang on and you will be fine .

I wish i could adopt your son ~but i am too much taken away by my husband and i wish i had kids ~but life has its plans .

hang tight and you will be fine .

its frustrating at times and you feel bad and sad but be strong !!!

we are always here to listen so keep on posting !
Posted 10/25/2014 4:18 AM (GMT 0)
Hi all,

Thank you for the support. He is 9 and yes in school but I do not get "me" time as I am never left alone. I live with 3 other people sides my son. My parents help out how they can but they do not watch him often as he is such a brat. He never wants me gone for more than 30 mins or so then he is bugging everyone to call me and asks when I am coming home. I can't even go out on a date anymore. I really love my son, and he really is my whole entire world but I figured by 9 he would be pulling away and I could have a bit of "me" time. I am so beyond needing a couple hours break, I need a weekend. I am sorry to those that do not have kids. I complain and here you do not have any, totally stupid of me. Sorry again.
Posted 10/25/2014 4:42 AM (GMT 0)
Do not be sorry Jessica !!!

You are like my sis and you can seek help here on HW ,don't feel bad .

I know what you are talking about ,having "me " time is essential and I deny myself that ,so i am here with tons of health problems and anxiety on top of it .

You are lucky you have parents to count on but as you never left your son alone for too long he seeks out looking for you only.

begin with few hrs and then slowly build more time and give him activities to keep him occupied as he won't notice where are you .

looks like he is bored and then seeks you (get him few crayons and coloring books ,few games )

whenver you have time with him ,have it like enjoyable ,quality time so he makes up for time lost so you don't feel guilty.

Don't beat down yourself on this <you are proud woman raising your son and its tough job!!!!!!!!!


HEALING PRAYERS YOUR WAY ~~~~
Posted 10/25/2014 6:48 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you Cilly
Posted 10/25/2014 7:56 AM (GMT 0)
Being mom isn't easy. There's a person that you are 100% responsible for. It requires sacrifices of so many types and even then they want more.

My experience has been different. I adore my kids, as you do your son. I don't get the time with them that I want. Maybe that makes our time less aggravating. My son is nearing that age when mom isn't cool anymore. Right now, I have the power to make him laugh, to ease his pains, to make everything ok for him but soon he's going to realize that mom isn't a superhero. That I'm just a person. He's not going to want to cuddle and watch movies, dance around with me, and I'm going to become the enemy. Teen years will steal my sweet boy.

Enjoy that he wants to smother you. My son is 10 and won't hold my hand anymore. That day is looming ahead of you. As much as you may think you want all that me time, its going to hurt when he pulls that hand away.
Posted 10/25/2014 9:03 AM (GMT 0)
AV nice to see you back posting!!
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