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Depressed wife of BiPolar husband, am I alone?
Bipolar disorder - 100.0% - 2 votes
ADHD - 0.0% - 0 votes
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Posted 10/30/2014 11:16 PM (GMT 0)
Hey y'all

I've become horribly depressed and feel simply lost in this new life path I've chosen. I married my husband in May of this year and not even a month later he was diagnosed BiPolar I and ADHD. Life has been a roller coaster from him being unpredictable to me finding myself with hurt feet from all my eggshell walking. He has been on so many meds most of which made him worse to just 5 days ago these new ones seem to be making him feel great. All while I'm a basket case!!!
I've gone from trying to kick him out of the house every 3 weeks to now I'm just flat and he's fine. I think I've said the "D" word at least 50 times since we've wed.
Here I am today severely depressed and crying the past few days off and on. After being through a long previous marriage and divorce after 17 years I feel like I've gone from the frying pan to the fryer.
Posted 10/30/2014 11:31 PM (GMT 0)
Can anyone shed some light?
Posted 10/31/2014 3:08 AM (GMT 0)
Hello Stafford and WELCOME=) though I'd prefer you weren't miserable.  I think you've answered your own question, if you read your post.  You are/have been engrossed in your husband's world, good and bad.  If you've jumped into the frying pan...leap out and away.  I know the vows say "for better or worse".  At this point in my 34 year marriage, I say "for better or forget it".  Life is hard when you have a partnership with your spouse.  It takes 2 or there's 0.

I'm sorry if I put stadium lights on it=(

~~Dixie

Posted 10/31/2014 9:56 AM (GMT 0)
first, it is new for him and you, i mean the illness. (and for your depression. this needs the same care as your partners illness) i know bi-polar 1 (rapid cycling) well, coz i am diagnosed with it. what i suggest is getting some support, for the both of you, him for management, treatment and you in terms of support. the correct medication, diet and therapy along with being productive will go along way to he and you healing. it is about working through it. you don't chuck the baby out with the water. see your doctor, get info from your local mental health services and look for support groups for people with bi-polar.(and support groups for you stafford) your hospital is a good point, local mental health services and your and or his gp. if you love each other, then please seek the support. it is complex and hard for both, but with support and understanding it does work.

i can say this. i have EUPD and bi-polar. my partner seasonal affective disorder. be patient with each other. i send many healing thoughts your way. check the resources section on bi-polar on this web site. there is also the bi-polar forum as well. i post there.
Posted 10/31/2014 11:01 AM (GMT 0)
You might want to find support for the ADHD too. It is very hard when somebody close to us has this. But there are medications to help. Keep posting, keep hanging in there. We are all here for you.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 11/2/2014 4:05 PM (GMT 0)
Huh, I could have sworn I posted, must have gone with the odd socks.

welcome.

you have received some good advice.

I was married 21 years when I was diagnosed. Rough to say the least, took 2 years for hubby to get therapy and realize it effects him too.

Like everything in marriage, this is not just about him. It is about how you react also. Learn about the diagnosis. Find support groups urge him to go, go with him.

Get him on meds. Gently keep him on meds. This is no picnic.
NO one was promised a rose garden after a wedding, but getting through this with love, compassion and wisdom, learning is better then, "WTH" am I to do now?

I wish you the best of luck, I have found a few links for you to investigate to start you off:

bipolarsymptoms.org/living-bipolar-disorder/

www.healthyplace.com/bipolar-disorder/transcripts/living-with-bipolar-disorder/

You are not alone, there are plenty of people out there willing to help.

We are here to listen and support.

Peace
Trina
Posted 11/2/2014 4:23 PM (GMT 0)
Hi!

I am so sorry things are bad. I highly suggest counseling for you. Depression, anxiety, bi polar, adhd, etc are family issues in my opinion. You are going through so many emotions, feelings, etc.

At least think about it. I think it will help to talk to someone about how YOU feel!
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