Another Setback

So, I had made such progress. Friends were telling me I sound so much better.

Then, one of them says you know what you did wrong. And proceeded to go into a regrettable event that occurred in my relationship. She was saying that I couldn't be sad because even though circumstances (feeling unwanted, lack of communication and affection etc...) led me I was still wrong. So now I'm feeling like the breakup is all my fault. I know it isn't but I get stuck in negative thoughts.

I wish she had waited a while longer to give her opinion. She doesn't know the extent of my depression and anxiety. She meant well but it knocked me back to being teary, sad and depressed. I guess I should take the propranolol but I'm on all of the pain medication and afraid to mix. UGH

Myself your responses are always right on point.

I appreciate everyone here with your words of encouragement, support and realism. Living in the here and now. I need that reminder sometimes because my brain gets stuck on the merry go round of the past. Round, and around and I just want to get off but can't. Then one of you helps me slow it down enough to see straight for a minute.

Hugs

Still me.

One thing my therapist has taught me is to stand up for myself.

It has been a hard lesson and yes I do loose friends. Thinking about it, do you really need friends that tell you things like this in stead of supporting you in a silent or friendly way? We all make mistakes and realize when we are wrong. We do not need to be told in detail about them.

Arguments do not have to occur. For instance in your case, you reply could have been. "Excuse me, I know my judgement may have poor in that situation, but it is past now. I don't want to talk about it." If the person continued, say you need to leave. And leave.

Boundaries are important, your right to privacy and respect is important. Someone making you feel like dirt is THEIR ISSUE not yours.

I wish you peace and strength
Trina