Posted 12/13/2015 11:54 PM (GMT 0)
There are big school people and small school people. It's not a crime,but if the big and impersonal doesn't work for you--you might want to consider making a move. Being in a big-school can be very hard. I was accepted at the big state school and two small private colleges. I went with the one who gave me a full-ride, one of the small schools. I am glad I did. I needed the bubble. I made friends, and I am a very reserved person in public. I had people who took care of me (and I of them.) We were in the middle of a corn-field in a teensy town in Central PA. We were safe and helped each other make it through
It's not all bad--you likely have some pre-reqs and gen-ed classes out the way. You also likely have a better idea of what you want to do, what schools will best prepare you for that and so can plan accordingly. This is also a good way to 'sell' the move to parents/family/friends. Oh, but such-and-such a place is perfect for this and that.
Will you make it through next semester? The plan here is to preserve the GPA enough so that transferring is possible. If your GPA goes down too much--getting into a decent place is much harder. So,the adviser in me says, "See what you need to complete gen/ed gen-studies, and take all of that in the spring. Focus yourself on the task of moving forward."
And if you can't get back in the spring, it's not the end either. Take a deep breath and register for some gen-ed stuff at the local community college.
It's your life and your education, kiddo. Too often,school choices are made by proximity and name, prestige and tradition, and not the more important issues of how we learn best and what we need to succeed. You are not alone in the issue of letting your parents drive your choices, and for discovering that what seemed reasonable at 17 is nuts two years later.
UA has a huge and well-developed counseling center--get yourself to it post-haste.
Realizing there is a problem and not taking action is going to be worse for you and your future than is staying at a school you hate. realizing you are not adjusting and are depressed can be managed, and there are good people to help and people who love you to continue doing just that.
I feel the need to share this story--though it has little to do with you. For my PhD, I spent 8 years at the big school I was accepted at for undergrad. I taught many students there. The one who broke my heart was the girl from my hometown, with a big heart and a big smile who did not belong there. She was raped the second week of classes. She NEVER bounced back,and she never got the help she needed, because she was terrified of letting her family down. She never told them. There was only so much I could do, except tell her every week that she was not super-woman and there were many people who would love to help. She kinda disappeared, long before she left.
Be well,friend.