My wife left me

My wife of 11 years left me 4 months ago, she said that i didnt trust her. She is currently seeing someone 4 months after our seperation and she says the relationship has been going on for the past 2 months. Im hurting and depressed because i believe the relationship transpired prior to our seperation and i dont know what to do.

I havent seeked counseling but I pray on the issue and I seeking counseling from my mother who is a pastor and my father as well.

Thank you

I just went through something similar. Ex gf of 8 years wherein the whole relationship was one where we lived together. She emotionally cheated on me with a former co worker she reconnected with on Facebook. She broke up with me saying I have too many issues, jealousy etc. Though she won't admit it, I think they are going out now. They're spending most days together since I moved out. I tell you this to give you hope. I was a basket case for over a month. I am now on no contact with her. Not to win her back but to heal. I asked myself why I was hurting so much... I couldn't function to save my life. Then I decided to do something about it- the despair. I looked deep within me and found that I think it's my fault, I am unworthy, I will never be happy without her.. those thoughts were keeping me down. I went online and listened to meditation guide videos, biked every day, getting fit, eating right, I am even enrolled in archery classes now. I forced myself to do this things even though I ended up crying. After awhile, it got better. Not because they were distracting me but these activities made me look towards what I truly wanted to do---- which is to be happy without her. So I placed myself in a position of strength. I refuse to be a victim. I still miss her. Yes, I still cry. But looking within myself, I realized that I can be happy with me. Just me. I literally forced my skeletons out of my closet--- all my fears. And everyday I choose to do something that kills some of them. If I think I will never be happy without her, I do something that makes me happy even without her. Biking did it for me. If I think I am not interesting enough, I remind myself to learn new hobbbies - archery. If I feel like I will never love again, I remember to love myself. This is a shift in my mindset that happened when I hit rock bottom. I refuse the ground! I will fly out of this hole. Take heart. You are not alone. Be a better person. Love will come in its own time. Do the work on you. Date yourself. Learn what makes you happy on your own. And best of all, get ready to be surprised.