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Posted 2/2/2016 8:11 PM (GMT 0)
I stay at home and care for my disabled adult son, I have no friends and I'm not social. Between my son's negative abusive attitude and my husbands lack of empathy when I'm down and my narcissistic mother and golden
child nasty sister, I'm about ready to lose it. How much more stress can I take? When I cry, none hears. My feelings don't matter to anyone. I'm so tired.
Posted 2/2/2016 9:21 PM (GMT 0)
You are probably going to have to separate yourself from your sister and mother. do they live with you? If not, minimize contact. Start getting out of the house. Even if you aren't social. Go to a restaurant and have a coffee or the library. Find things to do with your time that you enjoy.

Minimize the stress. Find ways to get around all the stress. Take time for yourself, even if it is just a bath. Try to enjoy it.

Can you get somebody to help you with your son? HOw old is he? Can he go to a class or do something out of the house during the day? Find places that he can safely go.

Only you can change your life for the better. Do you go to any therapy? Counseling or therapy could help you and that would get you out. Only you can take the steps.

I wish you the best.

Hugs, Karen.,...
Posted 2/2/2016 9:22 PM (GMT 0)
I'm in exactly the same boat. Who cares for the caregiver?

To answer your questions:

1) You can take all the stress the world will throw at you, that's just the way caregivers are made.
2) I heard you cry.
3) Your feelings matter to me.

I'm tired too, but somehow we will find our way through. We always do.
Posted 2/2/2016 9:27 PM (GMT 0)
Hi F27,

Welcome to the depression forum. Thanks for sharing support,

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 2/2/2016 9:44 PM (GMT 0)
Does your adult son qualify for a respite worker? If so, take advantage of that! Get your hair done, or your nails, maybe a pedicure. Window shop. Find a nice little coffee shop. And keep sharing with US!
Posted 2/3/2016 4:28 PM (GMT 0)
My son is 30 yrs old and no my mother and sister do not live with me. My son goes to a program 4 days a week for 4 hours so it gives me a little break ( I usually sleep).
Posted 2/3/2016 8:05 PM (GMT 0)
I am glad you get a break during the four days for a bit. Since your mother and sister don't live with you, can you cut back on some of the contact? I broke contact with family (part of) a few years back and it did me good. I could live my life the way I wanted to.

Try doing something nice for yourself during your four hours. Do something you enjoy with your time. A nap is okay, but you could use some self nurturing. You deserve that much. I know it isn't much but you got to take what you can get. Being a caregiver is taxing on you mentally and physically. I give you so much credit... You are a good person.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 2/3/2016 8:41 PM (GMT 0)
Thinking of you! I hope things start looking up. <3
Posted 2/4/2016 12:38 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks for the support it means a lot.
Posted 2/4/2016 2:57 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Deborah. I am not in a similar position as you, but I wanted to offer my support. From past experience I understand how awful it is to be in a thankless position, and to not have my feelings validated and supported. You are not alone here, and we can offer lots of ((((((hugs))))))) and care. Feel free to post here anytime.

Cass
Posted 2/4/2016 8:58 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you Cass wink
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