Can't I Truly Just Have No Purpose Without Depression?

What I'm trying to say is:

We all know that feeling inadequate, having no purpose and similar feelings are symptoms of depression right?
Right!
So, can it not be possible that a person actually be inadequate and truly have no purpose without it being due to depression, rather based on fact?

Hypothetically.......

Let's just take some average man and some basics which may go something like this:

45-50 age group,

No wife, no GF,

Has a child, daughter maybe, but out of the house. Better yet, joined the military and moved away and absolutely independent.

Has a job, just doing his work, but could be gone tomorrow and nobody would notice.

Has no friends so he goes home until it's time to go to work.

Overall, he basically just exists without contributing anything good to his job, community and the people around him. In fact, he's just sucking up a job, a place to live, food and good oxygen that an animal could be using so it's more like a draw on society.
Now I ask you, Could it be possible that he's just facing the facts and even though it must be depressing to be this guy, it is not depression?

Seriously, he probably would know his self better than anyone so if he can admit that he has no value, then maybe he just has no value. Wouldn't he know better?

I'm not saying he has no value. I'm saying he feels he has no value and that he feels he should know better than anyone.
I mean, in his mind, he will be alone and just drifting along the rest of his life and gets very sad when he starts realizing that he doesn't want to go through another 10, 15 or 20 years or however long his natural life will last.

This could be a self-esteem issue.

When I have a day where my purpose seems gone, I find my pulse and count it six times. That reminds me of a simple purpose, I am here for a reason.

Walking in the evening for at least 10 min. is good for the spirit, fresh air and seeing other people, even if there is not conversation.

A depression, grief, whatever the issue is; support group may be needed.

Interest groups, such as Book Clubs, painting class, music lessons, it is never to late to learn something. I am 55 and teaching myself piano.

Not all men need a GF or wife. Some men prefer to stay single their whole lives. Some have other interests and need to accept that fact.

a pet might help, a cat is great for people who work. Dogs are much more work.

I suggest you talk to your friend if he is willing. It sounds like you have not had a discussion and some of what you say is assumption. He may just be a hermit type person. Perfectly happy. Who is to say what is right for anyone.

Peace
Trina

Is this person seeing a therapist or a psychiatrist? That would be a good place to start.

Hugs, Karen...

In the beginning you said it was hypothetical. Is this somebody you know and care about?

We never know what is in a person's head. You may see this person as drifting but they may really be taking note of things and learning something.

Now does this person actually feel that they are drifting through life or do you just think that they are?

I still am not grasping your point. This person does exist I take it.

All I can say is it is up to this person to get help if need be. I believe that is somebody is just drifting through life, they are more than likely depressed to some extent. But only they can fix it. The old saying is you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink. You can suggest things but it is up to him to do them. And if you care about this person you will suggest him getting some kind of help. But he may not even want that. He may be happy just drifting.

I wish you the best...