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Posted 8/26/2016 11:22 PM (GMT 0)
Im 17 and on my last year of highschool, my girlfriend who 18 has been going through depression no sleep and constant aggrivation from others online, she is moving away with her 2 older brothers, we live on long island they are planning to go to arizona, ive only been able to spend time with her on sundays because of work, now i wont see her at all, and im depressed, i dont want to lose her, i dont know what to do. all this because its too expensive here and she needs a place to stay, originally once me and my friend turned 18 and graduated from highschool, me,my gf, him, and his gf were all gonna move into an apartment together, but i dont know whats gonna happen now, im trying to convice her to stay. (when we moved into together we werent planning on staying on long island because its to much money)
Posted 8/26/2016 11:31 PM (GMT 0)
worried,

In 2 years, you will have trouble remembering her.

The only things consistent in life is CHANGE.

You will learn to not take it so hard as you grow holder. You pain is real and your saddness overwhelming, I know. However, it will not last.

If you can get to college GO! Even if it is a community college on a 5-6 year plan. Not everyone has to do an IVY League to be successful in life. BA in anything will open doors you have yet to dream of.

I am 55 and have been where you are. I was 19 leaving on my own, when my BF moved to CA. Could not afford me, and I had no $ saved. His comment. "sorry babe" Didn't see that one coming.

So you see it works both ways. And you never know, I ran into the guy 3 years after I was married. Back east, living at home, 30yrs old now, and delivering for a florest.

Get a BA, I'm telling ya.

Peace.
Trina
Posted 8/26/2016 11:48 PM (GMT 0)
I know that im too young to feel like everthing is over, its just the things she's been through, horrible things that no one should have to go through, i want to help her, before i met her, i was depressed, probably because i was h
Jealous of everyone in a relationship and i was the only one out of my friends that was alone, i dont know how i acted or lived without her being with me, out of everyone i know, friemds and family, she was the only one i can trust, and im afraid to be alone again, everyday i think about how terrible i felt always alone, id sit home after school and lay in my room in dark on days i didnt work. I know my education comes first and i already know what i want to be, i have a scholarship for a college i want to go to, we all planned to live together while we all go to college, ive never dated before, because im the quiet kid in the classroom, i dont like the people at school, theyre disrespectful, loud, and all the same. She was one of the few people that i didnt dislike (because i had a crush on her) im afraid if i lose her, ill be alone the rest of my life.(i only talk to guys, i have no female friends):(
Posted 8/27/2016 2:04 AM (GMT 0)
I know it stinks when we have plans and all of a sudden they change like that. But you are working and planning to go to college, that is a good thing. You never know, you may still see her again and things may go differently.

I guarantee you that you will meet somebody else in the future. Just keep working on an even better you.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 8/28/2016 5:19 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you both for the helpful advice, ill try my best to become successful. :)
Posted 8/28/2016 8:39 PM (GMT 0)
Are to going to college this fall? or are you a senior?

If this is the last year of high school, you can go to the school nurse talk about your depression. She may be able to get a doc to talk to you and keep it private from your family since your are over 16yrs of age.

If this will be the first year of college, you can do the same thing. Most colleges, Univ. etc have medical offices or Wellness Centers. You will be amazed at the number of students that are treated for depression in college.

Some places have private and group therapy to help you.

So do not be afraid to reach out and ask for help. There is a law called HIPPA, and it states that all your medical information is private between you and your care givers. The can only release it to who you want them to.

The only exception would be to other medical personel to save your life.

I hope this helps.
Peace
Trina
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