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Posted 10/28/2016 5:53 PM (GMT 0)
Why yes, Pho is a good idea for lunch.
Posted 10/28/2016 6:46 PM (GMT 0)
Since Joyce (PA_grandma) is feeling under the weather, I will make an effort to keep her "column" going for a few days until she can get back on her feet. Here's hoping you feel better soon, Joyce.
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Friday's opener:

Joyce: For all you do, this quote’s for you:

"The smallest act of kindness
is worth more than the grandest intention."
- Oscar Wilde

"Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you'll find one at the end of your arm ... As you grow older you will discover that you have two hands. One for helping yourself, the other for helping others." -- Audrey Hepburn

"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." — Reinhold Niebuhr
(Serenity prayer, which closes Alcoholics Anonymous meetings)

FRIDAY’S SMILERS:
"You can’t buy happiness, but you can buy cupcakes. And that’s kinda the same thing."

"Did you ever notice there are no recipes for leftover chocolate?"

"I wanted to start eating healthy and grow my own food but I can’t find any twinkie seeds….."
Posted 10/28/2016 6:55 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks Tim Tam!

Twinkie seeds, that is funny! I hope you are having a good day and thanks for sharing.

F27, I hope you are having a good day too.

And to everyone else, Good Day!!!

Still dreary here, but not as cold. So that is a plus. I haven't been out to walk in a couple of days and I sure miss it. It always gives me energy and makes me feel better. Maybe I should put on some music and dance. Maybe my dog will dance too!

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 10/28/2016 7:38 PM (GMT 0)
So, do you guys find yourselves more depressed on nice (weather) days or on bad weather days? It seems I feel worse when it is nice and I am too frustrated, lonely, stressed, etc to enjoy it.

It's pretty nice outside, but no one to play with, too many things on my list, and too many things not going smoothly. As I told someone earlier, I just want to slam my head in a door.

I've been invited to visit a friend in the mountains next week - about 200 miles away - would see the leaves change color, but feeling too stressed to want to drive.
Posted 10/28/2016 8:16 PM (GMT 0)
Hi friends...and thanks again TIM TAM for the fun (and thoughtful) smilers.

Not much health news to share today. Went to the doctor appointment ...but the patient before me required hospitalization, and a great deal of time was needed for ambulance etc.

Briefly, I'm wearing a 'Holter Monitor" to record heart during the following 24 hours. and keeping a 'diary' of all activities and/or symptoms. That (hopefully) will help doctor to diagnose condition. In the mean time, I'm to cut back on coffee and increase other fluids. (and food) weight is too low. .

So, it will be two weeks before I see Doctor again, and get more of a diagnosis.....but in the meantime on Monday I see oral surgeon. I think the metal post installed in my jaw for implant is acting up. Great headache pain with no relief from meds. Oh boy, what next.

~ Joyce
Posted 10/28/2016 8:24 PM (GMT 0)
Go anyway--you will enjoy it. We are debating a long weekend. Cranky here as well,but it has been all autumn.

So--tutoring last night when I get this kid needing to write a research paper, due today. He had not started, of course. Nothing.

He sent me links to all of these websites,and basically threw his hands in the air. acting helpless. Had an extremely vague idea on topic. Friends--it took me over an hour to get him to understand he needed a specific topic and thesis. Then he typed,'So,what do we do now?" I replied,"I think it will be best if you start writing,building on the structure we have just outlined. You can always sign back in,if you have a question." But before I could get away, I needed to explain citation to him. Another 20 minutes-gone. *smacks self in face*
Posted 10/28/2016 8:36 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks Karen:

I'm one up on you. My dog and I just came back from a walk. Biggest event on the walk? Umm, there were no bad events.

And to Lynnwood who wrote above: "As I told someone earlier, I just want to slam my head in a door."

I was thinking earlier today: "I have no friends in the world. But I've got my dog," who was standing beside me wanting to go for a walk. The only one standing by me.

So my friend and I, my dog, went for a walk. It was, make do without any friends. Rely on yourself day.

Misery loves company. Which I guess is why we're all on this website. What is this, like depression central?
Posted 10/28/2016 8:57 PM (GMT 0)
Joyce:

Thanks for the nice comment.

Sorry to hear that you didn't get your doctor's appointment today.

I know that has to be a disappointment.

Is Monday still on for the column, or do you need to hold off for a while?
Posted 10/28/2016 9:16 PM (GMT 0)
Myself 09:

The detail you gave of the tutoring session is starting to make my day. It throws me back to my senior year in high school when my "term paper"? was due the next day.

Panic! I didn't know you could bail out with a tutor. I bailed out, with my Mom.

You say he didn't even have topic, and had done no research! No wonder you were upset.

Our topic had to be approved by the English teacher. Mine was dolphins. I had the topic and the research by going to the library a few times, but the night before it was due, I had not written a word.

I was 20 pages of notes all over the place. So we were up to probably 3 or 4 in the morning trying to get me organized to type it up.

Of course, we didn't have computers and search engines to start looking for data, we had to go to the library "Readers Guide" for magazine articles.

I can imagine your frustration. I can imagine my mother's frustration at 2 in the morning.
Posted 10/28/2016 10:23 PM (GMT 0)
Joyce, I can imagine your frustration. I thought I was the only person things like that happened to. Go figure... Good luck at the oral surgeon's. I hope all goes well.

Lynnwood, When we get a lot of crappy days like we have had, I feel pretty lousy. But when a nice day comes it seems I am too tired to enjoy it. Oh well...

Myself, I can imagine your frustration also. Maybe the student thought as a tutor, you would do their work, or they just didn't even try. Or both... I hope that you have more eager students from now on.

Tim Tam, Thanks once again for the smilers. I hope you have a good evening. I am glad you got out for a walk. I actually didn't get that far today. I wanted to but didn't seem to make time.

I hope you all have a good night.

Hugs, Karen...

Oh Jamie's day should be starting now.
Posted 10/28/2016 11:22 PM (GMT 0)
Down with NOROVIRUS , will be off for a day or 2

VERY CONTAGIOUS

If you haven't I strongly urge you all to research this virus. Lysol spray? 10min to kill it. I used bleach wate most every in house. Thought I was free and clear.

John was back to normal yesterday. Today is our 26th anniversary so some kissing was going on. He was sick for 3 whole day!

APPARENTLY a person is contagious 2 days after symptoms stop.

I hope you all stay well
Peace Trina
Posted 10/29/2016 2:24 AM (GMT 0)
bugger, virus, CONGRATS, 26 YEARS!!!!
Posted 10/29/2016 7:26 AM (GMT 0)
Happy 26th Trina. I hope you feel all better soon. Will be thinking of you...

I hope you all have a good day. Hi Jamie!

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 10/29/2016 3:16 PM (GMT 0)
Happy Anniversary! Feel better.

Lynn-go sit outside somewhere busy. I people watch happily and it makes me feel better.

Hope you are feeling better Jamie!

Karen--cold yet? The basil died. I am trying to recuperate the oregano indoors.

Tim--*enh* This is online tutoring. And things have very much changed since our days.

about 20 minutes in, I asked kid if he had an idea of what he wanted to write about. (the overall topic was an event--the specific was pick a cause and explore it.) Kid said"This cause." What he said was nowhere near specific enough--so I asked Why? Vague answer. I pressed him--saying his cause did not directly lead to the event. Well, okay. So I changed tactics and asked if he had a draft of a thesis statement yet. He gave me some BS sentence with official sounding words that contradicted itself. I tried to get him to narrow it down--no dice.

Finally, I typed out 6 different reasons his cause lead to the event. He asked me from what website I got that--so he could cite it. I beat my head for a few seconds, and I typed it is not from a website--it is from my understanding of this event. After ten more minutes--I got him to chose 3 specific reasons.

I typed those out on the Whiteboard--and said, get cracking. There is your thesis.

Your mom was quite nice to do that for you. I am meaner. I refuse to do the work for them. Maybe it is my years teaching at colleges--but a well-deserved F can teach a lesson,and teach that lesson in a relatively 'safe' space--meaning not the professional world. I remember I had a very smart kid--picked a very interesting playwright for a paper--and turned in a notebook full of notes for his paper. I slapped a sticky note on it, wrote Zero credit--see me. I really liked that kid--but he was counting on that fact, and was hoping for partial credit. His argument-I did the research. My retort--you did not complete the assignment, which was to synthesize the research into a well-documented paper. We worked out a deal--He had a week--I would dock the paper 20%. That was my standard--plagiarism included. First offense-no credit, one week-20% down. After that, forgeddaboudid. Kid got out of class with a low B, which he was perfectly happy with.

Sorry-rant. Sorry. Clearly, I miss it.
Posted 10/29/2016 6:19 PM (GMT 0)
Since Joyce (PA_grandma) is feeling under the weather, I will make an effort to keep her "column" going for a few days until she can get back on her feet. Here's hoping you feel better soon, Joyce.
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Saturday’s openers:

There are two ways of spreading light. To be the candle, or to be the mirror that reflects it.

"Don’t lose hope. When the sun goes down, the stars come out."

In 1876, in a book of questions, when asked, “If not yourself, who would you rather be? a 16-year-old girl replied:
“Be yourself. Who else is better qualified?”


Saturday’s Smilers:

There was a quaint little country inn that said:
“Bed and Breakfast”
“You Make Both”

“A bad attitude is like a flat tire.
You can’t go anywhere until you change it.”

“I already want to take a nap tomorrow.”
Posted 10/29/2016 7:26 PM (GMT 0)
I always already want to take a nap tomorrow. I don't know what I would do without my nap...

Thanks again Tim Tam.

Myself, yes it has been cold but today it is like 58 so it feels warm. I lost my basil too but got three good cuttings off of it to dry before it happened. I have one red geranium that wont give up. In the green house. It is really pretty for this time of year so I am really enjoying it. All the garden stuff is put away and awaiting another winter to come. Yuck...

Have a good day. I think what you do for the students is wonderful. They really learn with you. That is a real good thing. Sometimes it takes years, but it will be appreciated.

I hope everybody has a good day. It is going by fast. Been arguing on the phone with the phone and internet company I use to have. I just switched to a new one. Well unknowing to me, I owe the first company 200.00 now because I guess there was a contract that went from 2000-2018. A contract that I never knew about. So now I have to pursue that on Monday. It never ends I guess. Life... Ha!!!

Take care all...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 10/30/2016 5:18 AM (GMT 0)
yep, life the never ending story!!! cheers guys. am here, in the background, type thing.
Posted 10/30/2016 12:50 PM (GMT 0)
Good morning all.

Feeling a bit wobbly but better. Nasty thing this virus.

Myself I think you did the right thing with tough love and home work. How else do we learn, except by doing?

Tim tam nice job on funnies.

Joyce I do hope you are feeling better.

Jamie glad you are back.

Karen and all with fibromyalgia, I have a newonderful found respect for all that suffer. Did some research just for the heck it.

Peace All
Trina
Posted 10/30/2016 2:41 PM (GMT 0)
Lynnwood...I have been there with the low energy and lack of motivation. Always the long list. I don't blame you for not wanting to drive to see the foliage. If it makes you feel any better, during lent there is a great fish fry here and it is only $7...it is very close and I did go once and enjoyed it but couldn't push myself to go the second time.

Lack of physical health also gets me down. Don't seem to be any answers out there.

well so long for now
Posted 10/30/2016 4:44 PM (GMT 0)
Keep pushing to go out. The more you isolate, the easier it is not to go. Eventually you will be like me and only go shopping and to doctor's appointments. I do try to see friends once a week. It is hard for me though to leave the house. Sometimes I just feel lazy though I know I am not. Try to get out and do things. Before you know it, you will be too old and stoved up.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 10/30/2016 6:18 PM (GMT 0)
Since Joyce (PA_grandma) is feeling under the weather, I will make an effort to keep her "column" going for a few days until she can get back on her feet. Here's hoping you feel better soon, Joyce.

(Joyce, I'm going to leave Monday's column blank. Are you feeling OK?)

Thanks for the nice replies.


Sunday’s openers:

(Below are two of my deceased wife’s favorite sayings. She was an English teacher.)

“Todder up the hill with me John, my Joe John,
And then we’ll todder down the other side.”
(talking about a long-term relationship)

Nature’s first green is gold,
It’s hardest hue to hold.

It’s first leaf’s a flower,
But only so an hour.

(--Robert Frost)

When I was 5, there was a 5 year old girl who lived next door to us. My family moved a year later.
When I grew up and was a freshman in college, I remembered that, and I got her address from her parents and wrote to her in college. When she closed her letter back,
she didn’t say goodbye, she wrote:

“The woods are lovely, dark and deep, but I have promises to keep.
And miles to go before I sleep, and miles to go before I sleep.”
(--Robert Frost)

(--We were both on our own and all grown up now.)
Posted 10/30/2016 7:53 PM (GMT 0)
Yes, Tim ..thanks again.

I'll start posting the smilers again tomorrow...but hang in there, might need some help occasionally.
Seeing the Oral surgeon tomorrow afternoon about the painful implant screw

Did I read correctly that your wife is now deceased. How long ago? I lost my husband six months ago and still haven't come to grips with reality

~ Joyce
Posted 10/30/2016 10:36 PM (GMT 0)
Trina - Happy that you are starting to feel better. Yes, fibro with depression is hard sometimes. Like a lot of people have been saying, I have to push myself to get out and do things. Been having a lot of neck and shoulder pain. PT says I need to rest during the day -- well, that's not hard. Often it is hard for me to post online because of pain (typing), but it is consoling to read and see how folks are doing.
Joyce, I am sorry for your loss. How long were you married? It must be so hard. It really doesn't matter how long you were together, losing your partner is, like you said, having to face a new reality you never wanted.
Myself, the online tutoring sounds challenging but interesting. How did you get started? I use to tutor IRL, liked doing it.
Karen and all in the northern parts, I remember the first few crisp mornings and beautiful foliage. We live South now; I was planting flowers yesterday.
Hope all are doing well!
Posted 10/30/2016 10:51 PM (GMT 0)
Oddly, someone on the fibro board suggested it. I checked it out-and presto-chango. I have been applying to what are called remote jobs at a variety of different schools-for profit and not for profit--online faculty. I think my long sojourn to find a full-time job has taught me I ought to focus on doing what I am good at, and not apply for things I have no knowledge of.
Posted 10/30/2016 10:56 PM (GMT 0)
Joyce (PA_grandma)

Yes, I know what you mean about possibly needing some help with this in the future.

There comes a time when you need some time off. As a manic-depressive, I can't go halfway with something, I have to blow it out the stacks.

Then that wears me down. So let me know when you need a break. You gave me one a couple of times.

Oh, and if this column gets to us, what do you think the moderators go through doing this every day. Karen, Trina, UA, Scaredy Cat and Hibee.

Joyce, can you imagine? We know now a little bit of what they go through because we go through a small portion of it for awhile, and it gets to us.

I never thought about it much till I did this column a few days. It about drove me up the wall. The second morning I was to post the column, I woke up at 6 a.m., about five hours sleep. I was unnerved just over the prospect of that.

I knew it was going to be an occasional chest pain, a couple of naps, kind of day. Whether my dog got a walk was going to be touch and go.

I think the moderators have to be able to keep it together, those without nerves of steel need not apply. I don't if you or I could cut it, none of this day's off stuff. You just gut it out.

So we should let them know that we appreciate them.

Also, found of HealingWell.com., Peter Waite, needs some recognition for having kept this going for as long as he has. Do any of the moderators know how long that's been.

I wouldn't be getting any sleep if I tried to run the place.

Any contributions to this site would be helpful I would think. A site this elaborate doesn't come cheap I would think. I know it's helped a lot of people, including myself.

Thanks to everybody, including you, Joyce.

Let me know when you need a break, Joyce. Thanks for letting me work with it for some time.
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