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Posted 12/10/2005 11:54 AM (GMT 0)
 

 

    HI me1:

 

       I have a question can anyone tell me how do you get over lonelyness I've been dealing with depression for twelve years...  I live with my dad a sister and brother I'm also in therapy but still I get so lonely sometimes it makes me cry...  I can't realiy talk with my family because they don't realiy understand what's wrong with me...  I took care of my mother who had MS for twelve years I was forced to put her in a nursing home where she passed away due to Phnomonia that realiy hit me hard I'm still dealing with it because for a while I was blaming myself for her death because I thought If I didn't put her in a nursing home then she would of never passed away...

        Well if anyone could help me what I need is someone to become a pen pal so I have someone to talk things over with thanks again :-)

Posted 12/10/2005 2:30 PM (GMT 0)
Being lonely I think is probably one of the hardest things anyone goes through. And I'm not sure if you ever get over it.It's human nature to want to be around other people,or find that one true love.
I divorced my husband after 13 years and all of a sudden found myself alone every day. At first I embraced it,thinking how could life get better! But,then I found myself bored and lonely.
I really think that in order to somewhat get over being lonely you need to focus on you first. Doing things that you enjoy,like reading or cooking or playing games on the computer. Then,maybe going to the mall and walking around,watching other people and just having some type of other human contact.
I'm sure other's will have better advice than me,but I will say again you will probably never get over being lonely when you are by yourself for a long period of time,you just learn to "mask" the feelings.
Posted 12/10/2005 7:39 PM (GMT 0)
It sounds like you have been dealing with several losses, the loss of your mother, your job taking care of her, the understanding of your family, the sense that you made a good choice for your mother.

And it sounds like you are dealing with one gain--more time than you have activities to fill.

Best kickstart choices that I know about are
1. taking educational courses (photography, geology, database) to get out of the house, meet new people, and get your mind moving ahead,
2. short termed grief counseling (all of the losses fit that),
3. doing things, like going out more, exercising, starting or picking up a hobby, joining some kind of group (community service, political, theater).

Hope it gets better soon,

bev
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