Posted 4/9/2017 12:53 PM (GMT 0)
Hi everyone,
I've been dealing with this for a long time and I hoped someone may be able to offer some advice. In short, my girlfriend has recently been suffering with depression and anxiety and blames me completely.
It all started when I lied about the number of sexual partners I'd had when we got together because I really didnt think it should play a part in our future. I recently told her the truth after she forced it out of me and it ruined a holiday we had saved for a long time. She can't move past the fact I lied and her behaviour has spiraled out of control. Shes regularly abusive toward me both verbally and physically, she has terrible mood swings if i disagree with her on something, no matter how trivial, and she outright blames me as the cause if her anxiety and depression, despite having been diagnosed with it before we met.
I know her behaviour must have something to do with the depression, but the burden of being the one responsible for her mental health is crippling. I just want to return to the happy relationship we once had, there arnt any more silly lies but we just cant move past the past.
She threatens to leave me, or kick me out the house on a monthly basis, arguments can start from something as pointless as a facebook like and I'm constantly walking on egg shells because I'm terrified of starting an argument.
She regularly argues that I don't do enough to understand and appreciate the extent of her depression, but other than be supportive, encouraging and listening to her what can i do? I'm at the end of my tether, all i want to do is help her and get back to a healthy relationship but it all seems to blow up without warning no matter how hard i try.