My partner left me after starting anxiety/depression meds, what do I do...?

Sounds like an appropriate comment to tell him. I hope you get a reply.

Give it a little time.

Hugs, Karen...

I know it is hard Grace, but you need to accept it for what it is. Look at it as you are friends, and if it becomes more then that is a bonus. You need to try to go with the flow. I know, easier said than done. He knows you care about him and that is a good thing. Now it is up to you whether you stay or go.

I wish I could explain it better from his point of view. I don't think he loves you any less, it is just what he is going through. Depression bites. You feel not good enough for anyone or anything. Even yourself. You don't want to hurt others but it happens. I think he feels he is saving you from unbearable things. When he gets better, he may look at things differently again. He may move on. This is something out of your control. Just do the best that you can for yourself.

I hope that things get better.

Hugs, Karen...

Thanks karen... we have had a longer conversation and he is beginning to open up, so things are looking a bit better now... thanks so much for all your advice.

F27.... yes! I totally understand what you mean. I debated for a weeks as to whether to call his doctor or not. The only reason I did it in the end was because he said something to me on the phone a few weeks ago along the lines of "maybe I should just take all my pills then I won't have any problems".
I figured well, even if I lose him as a friend, I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I hadn't passed on my concerns to someone and he had tried to harm himself. Maybe it was over the line, but it is the type of thing we would do for eachother. I am disappointed that the doctor told him though, they promised they wouldn't. Luckily for me he took it as a sign of love and not an invasion of privacy... but I guess everyone is different

I am sorry for all the confusion. Maybe if you write things down, you can sort it out and evaluate things along with how you feel. The only other thing is therapy, counselors are really good at helping us see things for what they really are and sorting things out.

I hope it gets better Grace.

Hugs, Karen...

I don't know if he could even give you an explanation to be honest. I don't think he knows what is even going on. Depression is such a mysterious beast. It takes you places you never go or want to go. No, I wouldn't pressure him if you can help it. Just ride it out for a little longer. If nothing transpires, then do what you need to do for yourself. Never forget yourself.

I am glad you are going through counseling. It does really help. I hope things work out for you.

Hang in there,

Hugs, Karen...

I think you should get your stuff from him and then move on. This is torture. I think you will be much happier without all this going on. He does seem to be moving on easily. Maybe he wasn't happy in the relationship but didn't realize it. That does not mean that there is anything wrong with you or anything that you did. It just means he wasn't happy. I would make a clean break and let him know it is too hard to be friends when you were just in a relationship. I think that would be easier for you. But that is just my opinion, I am sure you probably feel differently.

I hope that things get easier.

Keep hanging in there, take care of you. Do something nice for yourself.
Hugs, Karen...