Posted 8/7/2017 6:23 PM (GMT 0)
I'll tell you what helped me, but it doesn't have the Good Housekeeping Seal of Approval.
My wife treated me like a dog for 37 years, yeah, cheated and all of that, then got a long term illness and passed away.
Five years later, I'm still missing her, go figure that one. You know anybody like that?
Anyway, I had this woman who was helping me, ripping me off, does that remind you of anybody, and to get the desired long term "loan," she figured out a way to get into my house, it's not easy, I'm kinda cautious, and then figured out a way to stand kinda close, as in serving up the bait for upcoming "loan request," and I fell into the trap for five seconds of glory. It was a very expensive five seconds.
But I'll take it. It was a con job, but, hey we all gotta take the fall somehow, and I'll take it that way.
She got the "loan request" a few days later when she asked, knowing I was hooked, I got the five seconds of glory, and then had the pigeon's reaction to being conned when I found out, right, it didn't mean anything to her except for the upcoming "loan" part.
Cold, huh? Yeah, cold, but very effective.
Which brings us to what? It brings us to, that five seconds of glory attached me to this woman, and detached me, finally, from my now deceased wife after five years.
The next day, after five seconds of glory, I took my wife's cloths off of the rack in her closet, and put them on the bed to be taken to the Thrift Store at earliest convenience. Why? I wasn't emotionally attached to her anymore, I was emotionally attached to the con artist through physical contact. Love works in mysterious ways.
The physical and emotional contact went together. And aren't we glad?
My therapist had been saying for years, "Forget her!" The con artist didn't say anything. She just knew a sucker when she saw one, she just let me have five seconds of glory, got the loan and got the heck out of my life. Physical therapy, thank you! It's even got a socially acceptable name!
A washday miracle, at no cost to you. Well there is a cost, but for what I gained in the long run, comparatively cheap. What did I gain? I gained not being emotionally bound to a woman who treated me like a dog for 37 years, and had been deceased by about five years.
It's not a perfect world, Fred. But "Jane Smith" made sure it's better than what the alternative might be.
So our problems are not exactly the same, but they're close enough. I'm not saying get a new love, that comes with new problems. I'm saying, meet "Jane," she'll help you out of your money and out of your problems. What therapist doesn't?
Oh, well, I don't know if I've done any good. It worked for me. Find something you love. Or find Jane. She's out there somewhere. It won't be love but it will be close enough.