Daily Check In Thread For All... #182

I am starting this thread with Pitmom's last post. I hope you all have a good day/night!!!

Hugs, Karen...

Hello all! Good to see some new 'faces' posting.

Got more of the decorations up outside, even one of the large trees! This year, it's on the patio outside the living room window, so I get to enjoy it more.

The adhesions have calmed down again and I am much more comfortable. Trying some stretches for Sacro-Iliac Joint issues. So far, so good. One set of them and I feel a difference already! Not getting my hopes up but, might be on to something here!

Felt a deep despondency this morning...loneliness....missing my parents and brother. Then, I started down the "I'm unhappy with...a...b...c." and made a determined effort to get off the pity pot and back away from the edge of the rabbit hole. It's toughest in winter.

Got dressed and started another little home improvement project...painting the edges of the wall next to the furnace because the wallpaper I bought is just a smidge too narrow. I no sooner put the brush to the wall and the phone rang! Friends' car broke down. It's barely 30 degrees out...so I put everything away and went and picked her up and dropped her at another friends house to wait for her husband to pick her up. At least she'll be warm!

I'm waiting for the paint to dry and then I'll try my hand at hanging the paper. It's one of the new removable type, so hopefully it will go up without too much trouble. Then, I plan to take the light fixture that was in my bedroom and swap it with the one in the hallway now. I have 2 mirrors to go up on the wall, too.

You are welcome Jamie, I am so proud of you!!!

Have a good one mate...

Hugs, Karen...

😊👍😀🐢 thx me mates.

Thx me mates. HT.🐢

Does anyone experience a darker time when it gets closer to birthday?

Hedgie,

Alot of people experience dark times around the Holidays. It is one of the busiest times for crisis centers.
One reason is getting together with family reignites the bad/wrong core beliefs that we were conditioned with as we grew up.

Another, like me, is there is NO one at all to celebrate with. I have no family all 14 plus any more children born in the last 9 years are estranged and my husband and I are separated. He decided he did not want a wife with health issues, and went out and got himself 2 girl friends 30 yrs younger.

However, I refuse to back to crisis. I use my skills, I do things that lift my spirits at least for a while. Piano, art, reading [reading is a passion]. I make lap blankets for Alzheimers units in the area all year round and give to the centers the week of Christmas.

I have 2 dogs that give me unconditional love and keep me busy, and out of bed.
I journal, getting my anger and sadness out, even my joy. I walk the dogs and make the walks mindful as much as possible.

Dark times are part of my life, always have been, but now I learn to live above them, someday I have to learn to bypass them.

Hedgie I wish you strength this Holiday to find things that make you smile, perhaps the crisp air as you walk, the smell of snow coming. Bake yourself some biscuits, nothing like the smell in the house.

Maybe go the local hospital, children floor and read to them.
Visit an elderly neighbor and bring a pound cake or something

Do something you have always wanted to do but never did. That would be the best present you could give yourself.

Last month I bought toilet paper, socks and underwear for some homeless people that are in the same area all the time. They actually cried. I did not feel better, wish I could have done more. But at least I did some.

Peace compassion and joy
Trina

HI Hedgie,

Do you think it has to do with getting older? Some people don't want to, but it is inevitable. One of my girlfriends hates her birthday because it is in November and it is usually gloomy. Mine is in November too but I don't hate it, I don't like it this year because I turned 60. But I guess that 60 is the new 40. So I will pretend I am living my 40's over again which I didn't like because my first husband died and I got fibromyalgia in my 40's. So this is a do over to me. Ha...

I hope you feel better soon. Keep posting as it helps.

Hugs, Karen...

Hi Pitmom,

I am glad you got to visit with family. That is good memories to have. And yes, it can be bitter sweet.

I bet your cranberry bread was good. Sometimes I make cranberry orange muffins. I love them. And for your secret recipe cookies. I am glad that they were a big hit!

Have a wonderful day and thanks for posting.

Hugs, Karen...

Oh hedgie. Our strength comes from enduring hardships...we all go thru them. My strength is acknowledging my vulnerabilities.
Please know we all care about ya.

Strong? I am not strong. I have simply learned how to break my day down into more manageable parts and be realistic with my expectations and demands upon myself.

Some days, I wake up and have to break my down to...drink coffee, take meds, let dogs out, feed cats, take a break. At some point I then break it down to...get dressed, brush hair and teeth, eat something, take a break.

Rather than think about the whole day, all at once. That's just too much to handle.

It took quite a while to learn this and I'm not always successful...but that is okay, too. Some days, the 'self care' goes by the wayside but I always force myself to do the 'pet care'.

Hello all.
I spent part of the day yesterday feeling sorry for myself. Not the best use of my time.
I had to stick around and wait for my daughter's dentist appointment, she had tooth extracted, and couldn't get into any 'big' projects so...I started going through the mountain of papers surrounding my computer desk. I'm still horrible about opening mail. I also tend to write things down on little slips of paper...but not enough information for me to understand what it was actually about! Sigh.
I plan to empty the bookcase, clean it and get it painted, then use some of the removable wallpaper that I used at the end of the hall, to back it and give it some interest. Then, I'll put some of the books back up and maybe some of my decorative pottery pieces, too. I'm considering covering the books with white paper, so they will all be uniform.
I've tossed the scraps of bead board paneling, tossed the old d.v.d. player and an old router, too! So much clutter that belongs at the curb! I've even gotten rid of the throw pillows that have seen better days! Spring cleaning, just before Christmas!

I am sorry you have had some rough days. Try to relax and keep stress at a minimum. Breathe... One day at a time...

Hugs, Karen...

I am sorry you have bad memories at this time of the year Weary. I hope that there is something that can make things better. Hang in there the best you can and try to make new (good) memories.

Have a nice day Weary...

Hugs, Karen...