phobias

thanks for your comments re; phobias. Maybe therapy with some people help. I may try it, my white coat syndrome is due to bad experiences misdiagnosis.etc. Not only me family and friends. medical errors. also prescribing wrong medication the list goes on. and for the past few yrs. have seen sickness and suffering which I think in the 21st century should not be happening. And compounding this is the loss of a few friends .. it isn't death I fear it's more like an illness and if something is wrong I don't want to hear just want be comfortable and let go. there are numerous things and I don't want to bore you. this includes people I know. thanks again.

thanks Karen ..I know this doesn't mean anything, but Karen is my daughter's name. for some reason I just wanted to mention it. You said I"m not explaining much , so I guess I"m not sure what that means. Please let me know what is missing. thanks again.

all I can think of to say is re; info...... about 18 yrs. ago my elderly aunt. who was a widow without children had to go to the nursing home she was in dementia. (not Alzheimer's everything is called Alzheimer's) she had old age dementia. So we being her only family visited her as much as we could about 3 yrs. later my mother had to go to the nursing home. she was 92 but was not in dementia. she couldn't walk any longer so my siblings and I had to do what we could. visiting both of them quite a bit. I think yrs. of seeing suffering and sickness .in an institution and then my husband. watching him die. which is a terrible memory...compounded my problem. I've had bad experiences with doctors and not just me several people I know. so along with all that baggage I have a phobia. Every little thing I"m sure I'm going to have a serious condition. No, I'm not speaking of death. I'm speaking of long term illness disabled etc. that is the core I believe, of my phobia. I haven't got the nerve yet to get to a therapist. I hope to. I think too many bad things with doctors have caused a lot of it. As I said people should not be suffering in the 21st century. also I 've spoke to people in a support group with white coat syndrome and I'm glad to see there are many like me.... I thought I may not be alone in this but I was surprised see so many. Sorry to ramble on but thought this may be what you're looking for re; info. thank you Karen

Cup of tea; thank you for your comments. I too, never thought of these things as a young person. I went to doctors, I can't say I enjoyed going but I did ...It isn't death I"m afraid of it's illness incapacitated that sort of thing. I"m sure they're going to tell me something I don't want to hear. I now know so many other people like this. I don't feel so alone and thinking I'm strange. My former boss's wife never went to a doctor because she was terrified. she lived to be in her 80s. and that's just one I've heard of I now know of more. It started when I had a lump on my breast I went to a female GYN, she said I had a mass and it has to come out. So I said could this be a cyst. She jumped down my throat and said I 'm not going to tell you things you want to hear it's a mass it has to come out. I went to a surgeon and he told me so nicely that it was a cyst. I had a needle biopsy was negative. He was nice she was rude. she should never have said anything like that because she wasn't a surgeon. From the minute I saw her she was extremely abrupt. That's when it started but it became worse when I saw things with friends and family. My sister had an operation that wasn't necessary. I could go on but I won't bore you with this. I thank you for telling me of your expereinces and I hope hear from you again. I'm sure there is something wrong with me ...but I need courage to face it. As for a psychic. I have to say. I was impressed. we gave her no name no info. of any kind and she mentioned a girlfriend I had years ago. that died. gave specific details. I too was skeptical. But she described a few things. that I just can't explain. some things she said I dismissed as general info. But even mentioned a cousin I lost. She's from another town did not know my name could not have known specific info. I'm thinking along a different line now . thanks again I appreciate your response.