Everyone needs me but I have no support.

First priority is I have a very loved person near and dear to my heart dealing with suicidal ideation. I am reading as much as I can but any advice is very, very appreciated. I don't care how far down the slope I slide as long as I can help them.


This year has by far been the hardest of my life and I suffered from deep depression in the past. I am so thankful that I have my mental health in a good place but I'm starting to fall apart. I won't make an egregiously long post with all the details but essentially every single person in my family(mom, sister, dad, 2 grandmas, brother, husband) have really needed me there for support for them this year. Be it mental health, medical issues, losing a loved one, general drama, etc. I also have a 7 year old who was just hospitalized with a bad illness AND a 9 month old. From the day he was born everyone has needed me so much. I thought this was going to be my year where I got to work on my degree, enjoy my baby and get back into shape but there's been a BIG blow up of some sort almost every month. I obviously love the people I'm helping and WANT to help. In fact I HAVE to help. It's in my nature. I couldn't live with myself if I didn't bc I can't stand to see my loved ones hurting. They truly have needed me and have had big problems themselves but I have no one to rely on. I know you have to take care of yourself in order to help others but I don't have anyone to go to or anywhere to turn. If anyone has advice for self care or whatever its greatly appreciated. I have a suicidal loved one currently( as stated in the beginning) and it's scaring me so badly. I'm trying to help but so afraid I'm going to fail. I'm using all reading material I have to help them as it's top priority and urgent but I know I can't operate at my best to help them if I can't find ways for myself to remain okay as well.I feel so selfish even posting this and hope it doesn't come across as super selfish. Essentially I want to help myself stay mentally well so I can continue to help my loved ones.

Hey Paige,

There's an old saying: if you want to get something done, find a busy person ;)
It is hard to accept your limitations. But it's important to know when you've reached your limit. Say to the universe, I can't do any more just now!
People are always in need, and there never seems enough people doing the giving. But you sometimes have to trust that somehow things will work out - that the world does its thing no matter what.
Try letting go just for a minute....and then work your way up to a few days or more.
People will survive while you get yourself some help.

really wish you well there

So sorry you have so much on your plate Paige
You have done more than your best
Remind yourself that all of this is really not in your control
I tend to behave as you do....and beat myself up for not being able to make it be all better
You have a good heart but you’ll make yourself sick
I try mindfulness meditation and try to tell myself Let Go Let God
It’s hard
Wishing you all the best and said a prayer

Hi Paige

Remember to practice self compassion and kindness.

We forget. If we do not take care of ourselves, we won't be able to care for others.

Even Mother Theresa had to be taught this, by.a kind expienced doctor.

Peace and strength
Trina