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Posted 2/17/2020 11:11 PM (GMT 0)
Hello, I am also on the Chronic Pain forum. I have suffered from depression for 28 yrs. I am on Cymbalta for depression & chronic pain. Today, I am sad because it was my older sister’s birthday today. She passed away from breast cancer five years ago. My mother passed away 2 yrs after from a broken heart. My older brother was diagnosed with Hairy Cell Leukaemia, when my sister died.

He won’t talk to me or my other siblings, since his diagnosis. I refuse therapy, I have tried too many times without any success. I know why, I have suffered through depression. It’s the past in my family, that has traumatized me.

Does anyone have any advice for me, on how to overcome the past trauma?

Thank you
Posted 2/18/2020 7:46 AM (GMT 0)
Hi. Firstly mt deepest of condolences. Secondly grief n trauma are very unique to each person....however they become very cyclical and take hold.

I get pain...diabetes...et al. Got em. Grief counselling i recommend...when ya ready. Those who have or are going thru trauma need care and skilled compassion. I have done both.

Self care is important at this time. Your posting here shows this self Care and guts. The HT🐢 is an aussie...so u might get some slang.

I burn incense and practice breathing exercises and when i can meditate and do mindfulness...esp mindful walking. I find solace and peace in music. I write decent poetry.

Even in my chaos i try and adapt. It is not an easy thing to do but by reaching out here you are beginning to do so. Ecpression is a great release. Journaling peeps recommend on the forum.

Many paint. I wrote poetry put a stack of incense stocks burning and crank up the metal. Remember it is whst works best for you.

A grief support service.
Church groups if religious. Pls keep in touch with your dr. Rhis is paramount and they have a stack of resources..
....yeah they keep em hidden but when a need is their...bang...they pull em out.

Pls not isolate it hard i know. You have had a stack on ya plate....self care. If peeps bot want to talk...family esp..then don't. They will get like oh crap...must communicate with...etc.

Keep 💪. Know we care. HT
Posted 2/18/2020 11:34 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Fusion,

Welcome to the forum. I have fibromyalgia, depression and diabetes also. I feel your pain.

In the 90's I lost five close relatives in a stretch of two years. My mother, grandmother two sisters and an aunt. It was difficult, but we get through it. I was going to therapy at the time and it helped to talk about things. So don't put that completely out of your mind. You will go when ready. If you go at all. I been in therapy for years but I have a real good therapist.

I agree with the mindful meditation and music. I listen to music all day. Do some things you enjoy.

I hope you feel better soon. Hang in there, keep posting.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 2/18/2020 5:10 PM (GMT 0)
Fusion, why did you find going into therapy as something that wasn't helpful for you? Did you find the therapists you worked with to be incompetent?
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