Estranged from twin, ready to give up.

Hello everyone, I am at a very low point in my life right now. My twin sister who I have been extremely close with for our whole lives of 36 years wants to be totally estranged from me. She has a man in her life that she knows is bad for her but she containes to run back to. He is married and very obsessive and all of her friends say that he is bad news, even a physic told her that. I tried to help her see the truth but instead she chose him and wants nothing to do with me. My soul is shattered not because I lost her but because of who she gave up our relationship for. How can I deal with this situational black hole that I'm in. The saddest part is tat she used to be the kindest, honest person and he has turned her in a heartless liar. I have went to the ER twice for this but because of over crowding I never get admitted. Should I continue to live or give up now I have no hope. Thank you for reading.

Post Edited (CalmLittleBuddha) : 2/26/2020 8:18:58 AM (GMT-7)

Thank you Tim, I like that quote and I do see a therapist but I am thinking about switching to a new one, thank you for your reply,

Hi CBL,

I can imagine that this is hard for you. You were probably so use to having your twin around and having her be a certain way. Then BAM... A huge change. That has got to be tough. I can imagine that you would feel lost.

The hard part is we can't control how other people are going to act. And it isn't always going to be to our liking. It sounds as though she is going to be going down a rough road, but she has to deal with that. I know it is hard to witness, but all you can really do (if you want) is be there for her and try not to judge her.

Then you need to learn to be your own person. We after all are all we have to actually depend on. We can only rely on ourselves to make proper decisions and to actually entertain ourselves. They say that this life is what you make it and they are right.

I think you are going to be okay. I too am curious as to why you are switching therapists? I have been with the same one for about 15 years. How long have you been with yours? I think it is awesome you are in therapy and I hope that you are talking to your therapist about this. I think they can help you.

Know you are a worthy person and you deserve to be happy. You deserve to feel safe and loved. I hope you know these things.

Keep going to therapy and keep posting here. You took a huge step on your healing journey when you started this thread. I think it was very brave of you. And it sounds like you are open to getting feeling better. I hope you do soon.

Keep posting as it helps.

Hugs, Karen...