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Posted 3/1/2020 11:23 AM (GMT 0)
I just feel like what i go through is so extreme that it is too much for anybody to take. I don’t know if my brain will ever really be ok again, I’ve tried hard for 11 years to get through it all but sometimes things are just too hard for the mind and I’m unsure what to do. I have kids so I can’t just give up. I do believe some things are a choice like the choice to stay alive but other things aren’t, like I don’t have the choice to be alive and feel well, I’ve been trying for 11 years, there’s too many expectations in this modern world and I just can’t cope with my anxiety and what my Brain has gone through, when I had a moment of confusion or perhaps distorted thinking and as a consequence I’ve tried to get back to normality but the trauma has been done and if I can’t have a normal state of mind and well being, how can I cope? I’ve seen psychologists regularly over the 11 years but no meds, worried if they don’t work I will have nothing left to try and that scares me.
Posted 3/1/2020 11:33 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Mad World84,

We try the best we can and that is all we can do. I would try medications. There are many different ones and the trick is to find the one that works for you. It can be frustrating but it does help.

I been taking them for about 30 years or more.

I hope you feel better soon. Being depressed is just no fun. Hang in there and keep posting.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 3/3/2020 3:56 AM (GMT 0)
Welcome Mad world...

We have been dealing with what I like to call "may Crap" for about the say amount of years.

The amazing thing about the human mind, if you breathe. in to the count of 3 slowly. and exhale to the count of 4 slowly, the mind will clear and the body will calm. So do this breathing exercise when ever you need it
As for the world? I will tell you what I did. With in the scope of what I could control,:
I reduced technology to a number of hours per day.
Learned how to say NO to people so I could get me stuff done
this is hard be can be done nicely. If you are working and feel taken advantage of
a good thing to learn

Would you enjoy a game night with your kids, unplugged. Summer you can go to the park and kick a ball around.

Music is a great way to depress, I still have a stereo and listen to music a lot, the old fashion way.

I hope this helps you a little bit. Remember you are enough, and your are worthy!

Peace and strength
Trina
Posted 3/3/2020 11:56 PM (GMT 0)
Well, you're reaching out for help so there is some hope.

You say, "I do believe some things are a choice like the choice to stay alive but other things aren’t, like I don’t have the choice to be alive and feel well."

I know this is simplifying it, but I attended an Al-Anon meeting one time, for relatives or friends of alcoholics, and it was a group discussion. When it came my turn to talk, I started listing my troubles in a sad tone of voice.

The woman next to me put up with it all, and when I was finally finished, she summed it up in a sentence or two. She said,

"Oh, you were having a pity party. We've all done that."

Let's break that up. "Pity Party." In Al-Anon and Alcoholics Anonymous, Pity Party means, feeling sorry for yourself for a long time.

OK, "were." Meaning, past tense, as in "You `were' having a Pity Party," not that you're still having one.

OK, "We've all done that." Wait, I'm not the only slob in the group? No, it meant, I was part of the group. Everybody's had a Pity Party.

The ball's in my court. What I've actually been called is a crybaby in front of five other people. But in a nice way. But it went down to my psychic, as in, I don't ever want to be called that again, so I better not be saying those words or feeling those feelings.

It put a stop sign to those baby feelings, as in, grow up.

I had been encouraged by my mother all of my life to feel sorry for myself. That's how I won and got her approval. By losing. In five seconds, this woman overruled my mother.

I have never felt sorry for myself again.

You say, "but the trauma has been done and if I can’t have a normal state of mind and well being, how can I cope?"

I don't know about the trauma, but I know you're reaching out for help, and that's a good sign.

If I can stop feeling sorry for myself, raised by a mother who was sexually abused and put us children through torment, is there anyway you can address the trauma? Or, as that woman might put it, "Oh, you've had some rough times. We've all experienced some of that."

And she didn't give me one pill of medicine.
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