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Posted 3/20/2020 3:09 PM (GMT 0)
Lately, I have been extremely depressed to the point that I can't even clean my house or sometimes even get out of bed. My boyfriend and I live in a tiny home on the property of his sister and her kids, as does their mother and father. I was told yesterday that for the past 2 weeks or more, all me and my boyfriend have done is argue, to the point that we are both screaming at each other. His 2 year old niece and 1 year old nephew live on the premises and can feel the tension in the air due to it. I have no idea how to even remotely start to control how I have been feeling, but I'm scared that honestly if something doesn't change I will lose my boyfriend, if it's not already far too late to even try saving the relationship.
Posted 3/20/2020 3:48 PM (GMT 0)
Being confined to small spaces makes things more difficult. Try to be tolerant. Try not to argue. Even if you don't agree. Times are trying right now and you two are going to be stuck with each other for awhile. There is no need to traumatize the children if that is what is happening.

Can you get out for a walk? It often makes us feel better both physically and emotionally.

Can you talk to your boyfriend about this? Let him know it affecting the children? Maybe he can calm things on his end. It most likely is both of you, not just you.

I know how it feels not to be able to do anything. That is due to the depression. I go through the same thing. Do you have a doctor or psychiatrist to prescribe meds if you need them? Or do you already take some medication? Do you go to therapy? That really helps. Right now a lot of therapy is done over skype or something similar. Depending on where you are.

Do you do any meditation? It will calm you and breathing exercises if you are experiencing anxiety. Mindfulness helps with both.

I hope you feel better soon. Keep posting as it does help to write about it.

Hugs, Karen...

PS welcome to the forum...
Posted 3/20/2020 9:57 PM (GMT 0)
AngelWhisperer, even though your boyfriend and you argue a lot with each other, do you think he is a nice guy? Do you think he is a reasonable person?
Posted 3/22/2020 1:14 PM (GMT 0)
I know that he is
Posted 4/16/2020 4:37 AM (GMT 0)
Depression can ruin a relationship. But, just remember that a strong and healthy relationships have the potential to help us cope with the symptoms of depression.
Posted 4/17/2020 5:54 PM (GMT 0)
Welcome Angel,

I think the best thing you can do at this time is call your family DOC. If you don't have one, call one the doc of some else.

Or go to a quick med place.

You are not alone in being deeply depressed, when never having depression before. Everyone deals with differently. Your boyfriend could be depressed and does not understand how you are reacting.

this link if you read the article, and seriously put it into action with some slow breathing. Try just one thing a day you will be getting ahead of the depression slowly.

https://www.mindful.org/six-daily-questions-to-ask-yourself-while-social-distancing/

Tell him you know this is not you, and you want help. don't yell. Will he take to the quick med place.
Angel this scary but it will pass and you will get strong. Do not give up. It is just emotions, and emotions can not hurt you.
Ask him if he is depressed, does he want to talk about it, perhaps this will open him up to listen to how you feel.

Men are different, They don't know how to help in these situations because the stuff all their emotions,

I wish you strength, Peace and comfort
Stay well,
Trina
Posted 4/28/2020 11:19 PM (GMT 0)
Angel,

I'm wondering, also, are you taking any medicine for depression?

If not, can you get to a psychiatrist? Can you look one up on the net for your location, and call that person for an appointment?

I know, it's difficult when you're depressed. I couldn't. I couldn't even make a decision. So I just sat around until I had a nervous breakdown. That's no way to handle the problem.

There is a saying, "Change before you have to."

If you can't afford a psychiatrist, you can look up on the net, "Mental Health Clinic (or psychiatric clinic) for Your Hometown." They will have a sliding scale where you don't have to pay anything if you can't afford it.

Can you be positive enough to look on the net for the list of clinics, get one of the phone numbers, then dial the number? The secretary will take over after that.
Posted 4/29/2020 1:09 PM (GMT 0)
Cough...not all men trendy...lol.
HT. 👃🐢👍
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