If Your Wife Were A Cop

I've never had issues with the law before. And I've never hit or abused women either (and I never will).

However, years ago, I worked with a psychotherapist who also worked with men who beat up their wives/girlfriends.

He told me that many guys who physically assault women claim that they can't control their physically violent ways. They say they can't control themselves when they assault and batter their wife or girlfriend.

He then told me that when he'd ask them, "If your wife/girlfriend were a cop, would you still hit her?" that usually got them to realize that they can control their violent physical assaults against their wife/girlfriend when they really want to.

I think he was right.

I don't think you can always control how you angry you feel. But I think you can control how you react to that anger. If you're a guy and you hit a woman, you make a choice...that's right...a choice to physically assault a woman.

yes it sad. it is wrong. HT

MainerMikeBrown said...

I don't think you can always control how you angry you feel. But I think you can control how you react to that anger. If you're a guy and you hit a woman, you make a choice...that's right...a choice to physically assault a woman.

Some men have such control, except after enough alcohol to remove their inhibitions. There's a common phenomenon of men becoming supposedly entirely different people when drunk, becoming enraged and violent. My take is that if someone is capable of something when under the influence, they're capable of the same thing when sober, and the problem needs to be addressed preemptively. Not that I would encourage anyone to drink, but alcohol is sort of like a "truth serum" to reveal one's true nature.