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Posted 8/5/2021 12:37 PM (GMT 0)
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Post Edited (Franco9) : 8/6/2021 1:26:49 AM (GMT-6)

Posted 8/5/2021 12:50 PM (GMT 0)
My suggestion would be to just support your partner. This is not your battle to be won or lost, it's your partner's family and shouldn't be compared to your own. Talk to your partner, take his lead, and don't look back.

Sharon
Posted 8/5/2021 10:36 PM (GMT 0)
Welcome Franco
This is what I have learned.
Unfortunately there is nothing you can do to fix the situation.

People will react to things in away they do, and this u
Is out of our control.

What we can learn to do is
No react in way that is harmful to us...

This only adds more hurt on top of what we already have.

Easy right? No. Practice helps.
Research DBT Skills
Distress Tolerance
Goes along with mindfulness

Support your partner by being there. Making food he won't eat.
Try not asking a lot of questions til he is ready to talk
Peace
Posted 8/5/2021 11:24 PM (GMT 0)
I would just focus on your partner and your relationship. Let the chips fall where they may. I think if you back off, the stress will subside. I know in your heart you want to help. But as was stated above, we can't control what other people do. I wouldn't worry about the wedding or relationship of the father. I think it would be best for both of you to just ignore if it doesn't actually effect your life. I know it is hard. But now is the time for you and your partner to work on your relationship and enjoy life.

Best wishes...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 8/6/2021 7:25 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks so much everyone.
I just feel so bad for my partner. He is a good man and doesn't deserve to be treated this way.
I am going to take a step back and concentrate on him and our relationship, which has always been good despite all the drama.
I am also going to take on board the mindfulness treatments you advised above too, I had not heard of those previously!

Thanks again x
Posted 8/7/2021 10:12 PM (GMT 0)
Good for you Franco9,

I think once you do this your partner may too. The mindfulness helps so much.

And remember people often hurt others when they are unhappy. Happy people don't even think about hurting other people.

I hope that things get better for you both.

Hugs, Karen...
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