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Posted 7/11/2006 3:08 AM (GMT 0)
I CANT HANDLE THIS.  WHAT ADVICE/SUGGESTION CAN YOU GIVE ME?

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Posted 7/11/2006 3:25 AM (GMT 0)
Hopeless,
I know you are feeling really, realy bad right now, but you have reached out for help here. That's great! You may not want to hear this, but your mom is right. You need to see a psychiatrist. All the things you are saying are symptoms of major depression, along with some other issues. I've felt much as you are feeling right now. Things can and WILL get better! Until that day comes, you MUST get help. PLEASE call a suicide/crisis hotline. There should be one in your local phonebook. You say you don't want to talk anymore. I'm sure that is how you're feeling at this moment, but honestly, you NEED to talk to someone and if you will do that, it will help you more than you can know right now. It will be like a huge burden finally lifted off your back! There are so many options today for folks with depression and other mental health issues. There's no need to suffer in silence or in vain. No one can make you get help, but despite your feeling towards your parents right now, your mom apparently cares about you enough to recognize that you need help. So in this case, it is a matter of mom knows best! PLease keep us posted about how you're doing. We Care!
(((HUGS)))
janet
Posted 7/11/2006 4:11 AM (GMT 0)
Yes, the helplines are anonymous. PLease call them.
How old are you? Instead of living in dread at what your folks will say, it'll probably be better if you go ahead and tell your dad what you did. Even when I was a little kid, if I did something that I knew I could get in trouble for, the dread of what was coming was even worse than the punishment, cuz I still got punished, so I figured why feel so scared in the meantime? I just went ahead and fessed up. Lotsa times, I didn't get in trouble like I thought I would, or at least not as bad. I have to go offline for awhile...please get help! TTYL!
janet
Posted 7/11/2006 7:44 AM (GMT 0)
Hey!! I hope you are feeling better. I was reading these and I can totally relate!! I DO cut myself. Atleast , I used to. Somehow it makes me feel better. I know that sounds sick!! And my mom only communicates with me through email. She won't listen to me because she says she can't handle my problems. I was fired too. Like 3 weeks ago!! I worked at a bank. And I didn't go to jail for what I did. So i doubt you have anything to worry about. Not that I did anyting realllllyyyy bad. I have been depressed for years!! Some days are better than others. I take Effexor and it seems to work pretty well. Im still depressed, but I am able to cope better. Hang in there!!!
Posted 7/11/2006 10:40 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Undermyskin,  I wanted to take a moment to welcome you to healing well forum, we are happy to have you.  I see that you have been talking to Janet who is always a huge help and gives wonderful suggestions and advise.  It can be extremely difficult when you feel that you dont have a support system at home and cant talk to your parents about your feelings without them twisting it.  However, what I would suggest is if you do still live with them, then you need to come clean to your parents and face whatever the conqenceses are to your actions.  Perhaps you could write them a letter explaining what happened and how you feel.  It would just seem that if you hide it then things will be much worse when and if the truth comes out.  In the mean time you need to communicate to them how your feeling and your thoughts of self harm and that you have a immediate need to see a doctor.  I dont know how old you are or if your able to arrange this on your own, but please dont let another day go by suffering in silence by yourself with this.  I am posting some links on suicide and self injury for you...please check them out.  Take care http://suicidal.com/depressionandsuicide/ http://suicidal.com/suicidalteens/ http://suicide.com/suicidecrisiscenter/ http://suicidehotlines.com/ http://www.selfinjury.com/index.html
Posted 7/11/2006 8:26 PM (GMT 0)

There is no reason to feel ashamed if you have to see a psychiatrist.  I used to feel that way.  I think everyone at some point in there lives has to get help from someone.  All kinds of people see psychiatrists.  Actors/Actresses, Athletes, Politicians, Moms & Dads, Kids all types of people.  When you have feelings like this, try to find something that you like.  Animals, sports, history, music, whatever and just endulge yourself into it. 

Regarding your work issue, everyone makes mistakes.  You at least understand that you did and seem sorry.  That is a good trait. 

Don't put pressure on yourself either.  Things will work out.

Posted 7/12/2006 1:27 AM (GMT 0)

Undermyskin*

You need to see a psychiatrist.  I don't want you to kill yourself.  I may not know you very well but I had a really good friend of mine who killed him self and he was only 14.  His death showed me that people do care that know but you don't realize it until something bad happens to you.  That is how I knew that killing myself is just a way out of your problems badly.  You need to work you problems through.  My mom is the same way.  She doesn't like the idea of me taking medication for depression and going to a psychiatrist.

 

Posted 7/12/2006 4:10 AM (GMT 0)
Please contact your local suicide hotline. They will have resources at their disposal to help you.
Posted 7/12/2006 3:20 PM (GMT 0)
Hi undermyskin, welcome welcome, you are so young to feel this way, i hope you have called one of the hotlines, go to a payphone if you have to, no worries of your mother or a trace. Im sure you are loved by more people than you would imagine, My best friend has been on the verge of suicidal for awhile now, it is so hard to be that depressed, but i promise life can be better. I hope you are feeling a little better and keep us posted please. hugs
shell
Posted 7/12/2006 3:38 PM (GMT 0)
Discussion of suicide and self-injury are not permitted per the forum rules. Please seek professional help or call the number below:

National Suicide Hotline
1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433)
This is a combined network of the Amerian Association of Suicidology, the National Hopeline Network, CONTACT USA, and many other organizations. Call are automatically routed to the nearest crisis center to the phone from which the call for help is placed.
Posted 7/12/2006 6:43 PM (GMT 0)
i never mention how i wish to die, i just said i thought about it. i was just being specific and i needed a place to vent is all.
Posted 7/12/2006 8:46 PM (GMT 0)
Hi, Under!
I know it is hard for you, but you need to go to a psychiatrist. You said in a post that's now been deleted that you wouldn't be able to talk to a shrink cuz all you would do is cry and that you are shy. Believe me, they've seen and heard it ALL! If you need to cry, they'll let you cry it out until you can talk...I should know. As to being too shy, it's kinda like us gals having to go to a ob/gyn. We aren't exactly thrilled to be seen in such an exposed way, but it's necessary. I know a lady that had a baby and she said that it was so painful to her that she kept kicking the sheets off, even though she was naked down there. She was hurting too bad to care! I figure it's a lot like that with emotional and mental pain. If you hurt bad enough, you'll go despite your shyness. I'm not saying it's a breeze, but if you could just go one time, you'd see that it's not anything like you see on TV. They don't rush you to a couch and grab a pencil and notepad and ask you to start telling them about your mother...!!! ;) They are generally empathetic and do want to help you, just like a medical doctor wants to help when you break an arm or have an earache. We can only do so much for you, although we wish we could do more. You are stronger than you think and if you will get help, you'll always be glad that you did. You are too young to waste your life. I wish I'd gotten help when I was younger...my life would likely be much more productive and happier.
No matter what you decide to do, keep coming here and posting. It's good to ventjanet
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