HealingWell
Search Close Search
☰

Benadryl,beer,pms,small fight do not mix

Support Forums
>
Depression
✚ New Topic ✚ Reply
❬ ❬ Previous Thread |Next Thread ❭ ❭
Posted 8/17/2006 12:22 PM (GMT 0)
I am trying to understand myself. And I am getting very frustrated.
One of my favorite things to do is sit on the deck with my b/f and have some beers and talk about everything under the sun.We have so much in common that we get along very well most of the time.
Except 1-2 weeks before my menstrual cycle.
Ex: this week I came home from work,and was very excited to see him sitting outside with a beer.
After 3-4 hours of great talk,stories about our past ect. He told me a story about his ex. I proceeded to tease him about her.Must have gone to far as he got mad and I started bawling. He then proceeded to tell me to move back to my home town (which he soon regretted) which made me cry harder.
By the next morning my eyes were swollen for 2 days from crying and I was bascially numb.
I just dont understand how I can be fine for the rest of the month but can release a fountain like that?
I know the first thing I am going to be told is not drink at that time.
I know that. I am just trying to figure out why I cant cry any other time.
Posted 8/17/2006 4:28 PM (GMT 0)
I can't comment on the crying question but you are consuming all of the responsibility for what happened between you and bf. It takes two, misunderstandings happen, own your stuff but let the other go.
Posted 8/18/2006 11:56 AM (GMT 0)
No,I know he was being a jerk,And when I said "which he soon regretted" it was because I made sure he knew it was just not me.
He has a very sharp tongue at times. And I am still not sure why he even got mad. He now refuses to talk about it,which makes me wonder if he realizes he was out of line. I did tell him that if he wants me to leave,then be a man and I will go. Dont throw it in my face whenever he gets frustrated with me. I do not say stupid things like that to him and hopefully never will. He swears he does not want me to leave.
I do not know now.
I am just frustrated for crying like that.
Posted 8/18/2006 3:41 PM (GMT 0)
Hi ya Shy,  It really sounds like you both have a good relationship overall.  Especially if you can talk to each other for hours on end like that.  I envy that and most people in relationships dont have that kind of communication.  It is fustrating to cry like that, sort of like and emotional burst...is how I think of it.  I sometimes get like that a few days before my cycle.  It can either come out as being very emotional or just being plain angry at the world...lol!  Maybe, if you know that it is "one of your days" you could try to regulate how much you drink or just have one or two beers.  It would seem that the combination of alcohol and the increase in hormones at that time played a big part in how you reacted to what was said.  No one knows you and your body better than you...what you can and cannot handle.  I think it is a matter of recognizing what the triggers for it were and trying to avoid them in the future.
Posted 8/18/2006 4:14 PM (GMT 0)
Shy,
They're called "hormones" for a reason---"hor" is short for horrible!
Take car! It'll be better! :)
janet
Posted 8/18/2006 10:18 PM (GMT 0)
My ex didn't cry, just threw things at me and screamed alot. I used to watch the calender to see when her period was to start so I would be on the alert. She would lay down tripwires everywhere. I didnot always react well to it and it made me feel bad and sad. There has to be a better way it's not your fault, You remember what was said. My ex either lied or blacked out becouse she would denie everything except what I did or said.
I wish you both the best.
Posted 8/19/2006 11:27 AM (GMT 0)
You all have made me feel so much better!
I think all the stress that I hold in each day just has to come out at some point right?
I think I am in pre menapause stages as I has my tubes tied at 22.....not sure on that.
You are right,I have to rethink that beer/pms if I do not want to become a fountain. It happens every month,and I just need to grow up and deal with it.
He is not good with tears as he does not know what to do to make me feel better. Leave me alone,or bug me and hope he does not make me madder. I almost feel sorry for him....wait,he was mean that night so now I do not feel sorry for him! HA.
Ok,so my new motto is this:
I am a woman,hear me cry, and deal with it!
Posted 8/19/2006 3:12 PM (GMT 0)
Shy if it makes ya feel any better I always know when Cait is on hers or about to be she is an emotional trainwreck but it is during this time only the hormones are a biggie in this hun,..be well and stick to your new motto
✚ New Topic ✚ Reply